Do the bad times always come soon after the super sweet and understanding times?

[Cipher13]

The topic of the warning signs before marriage got me thinking about my situation. Wre there signs... .heck yeah. About 10 to 15 break ups a month. Pressure to pop the question sooner than I wanted. Example of this. When we started dating it was in January. By March we went on spring break aloen together. She some how convinced me to buy an engagement ring... "for the future". Then by May we were engaged.  Other signs were she had a security blanket while in college... .still has it. I touched it and moved it 1 time. She lit in to me like I broke a priceless vase.  Other signs were manupulating me to push friends and family away... .until I had zero. A rage that she ended up ripping up engagement phots 3 weeks before we got married because I wanted a weekend up at the cabin with my dad and grandfather. Then after we got married the coupe degrase... .flippin out at the Arm and gettign me out od basic training... .finally getting y family away from me, and cutting out sex for months at a time because she was no longer connected to me. 

I go back to the first warning sign and that being the security blanket... .that to me should have been the sign that said "This person is not well, get away, go back to were you came from and leave this one alone".     

[popeye6031]

I suppose the security blanker is probably not something you would want to see when meeting your prospective wife.  Funny that you say you were engaged by May, I know that my fiance was very annoyed when I did not purpose to her in May, following us starting our relationship in January.  Led her to start a fling with some guy, which she still denies.  I know it happened though.

The pushing family and friends away is a big one alright.  She has hinted to it with her actions and things she has said a few times.  But I am never going to let that happen.  If it does come up, if we have not already broken up, that will be the end, for sure.

Hearing about the sex things is a complete turn around.  As it is the opposite at the moment...