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« on: November 06, 2013, 10:03:55 PM »

Felt the need to share to get it off my mind... .

I was recently told by a mutual friend that my exBPDgf who ended it with me quickly entered a new relationship and got "played out" by some younger kid... .

I didn't need or want any updates but it came about during conversation, at first I felt upset now knowing that she moved on so fast and that things were most likely going on behind my back but honestly I just feel bad for her, and what we could've had, and that now she is left with nothing struggling... .  I also hear she posts negative things about life on social networking sites and its a shame as she has all the potential to make something of her life but she chooses this as her path... .

Someone I loved is in a dark place, I'm doing well with moving past everything and can only hope one day she can find some sort of peace within herself... .

I thought maybe it would make me happy that she failed so soon or kill me inside that she was with another man, but I just feel sorry for her and her life as it was not her fault ultimately that she has these emotional issues, but I guess it is only up to her to seek proper help.
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« Reply #1 on: November 06, 2013, 10:17:00 PM »

Felt the need to share to get it off my mind... .

We are always here for you to share.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

I was recently told by a mutual friend that my exBPDgf who ended it with me quickly entered a new relationship and got "played out" by some younger kid... .

I would use caution when hearing things like this from a third party. You have to decipher that third party's perspective, some can put quite a twist on things and not even realize they are doing this.

Someone I loved is in a dark place, I'm doing well with moving past everything and can only hope one day she can find some sort of peace within herself... .

I would also caution you not to assume she is in a dark place. That's how you would feel in this same situation.

I just feel sorry for her and her life as it was not her fault ultimately that she has these emotional issues, but I guess it is only up to her to seek proper help.

Yes, you're right it is up to her to seek help. It's doubtful she will seek help if someone is always "saving" her.
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« Reply #2 on: November 07, 2013, 01:08:00 AM »

How is your path lately BM, are you doing ok?
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« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2013, 10:08:30 AM »

I'm doing well, better than I thought and I feel good about things now as I better understand things.  She told me how she feels inside so that is why I said she was in a dark place and I know from a mutual friend her statements to be true but I do understand to be careful about what people say and why and not to label people.

I like to think positively about people no matter what may have happened towards me, I've learned a lot from this site and through other resources, thank you for lending me your ears Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #4 on: November 07, 2013, 11:40:18 PM »

Poor them, they are so hurt by the world, everyone is putting them in such positions, eternal victims, I can't even look after myself, help me. Feel something for me, compassion, pity, want, lust, anger, jealousy, violence. Provoke provoke provoke.

Poison everything. All else fails, crying, rage, sex, infidelity, revenge, hurt.

They are not innocent, authentic, loving, honest, concerned.

Just the stinkiest people to be around.

You wouldn't be around here if your RS was mutual respect, healthy.

Feel sorry for yourself, be caring to yourself.

Let them stink up somewhere else, someone else. Did you love her or have you got confused with love and being a father/mother/caretaker/24hr garage/booze shop owner/vibrator/emotional punchbag/bank.

Not an easy answer.

Was she ever there? Apart from her crazy emotional neediness.

I was a Pornstar baby sitter, one of many.

Good luck moving on Betterman

ignore them. Waste of time money effort

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« Reply #5 on: November 07, 2013, 11:47:04 PM »

Everything they say is a lie, everything they do is true.
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« Reply #6 on: November 07, 2013, 11:51:46 PM »

Just the stinkiest people to be around.

WooHoo!  This description is unique, a first for me.  Well done!
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« Reply #7 on: November 08, 2013, 12:11:56 AM »

Ha!

Get well soon betterman
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« Reply #8 on: November 09, 2013, 01:24:31 AM »

Wow! Hit that one out of the park! Spot on for many of them. It's so upsetting to read it all spelled out like that but I actually needed to see it. Thanks... .

Poor them, they are so hurt by the world, everyone is putting them in such positions, eternal victims, I can't even look after myself, help me. Feel something for me, compassion, pity, want, lust, anger, jealousy, violence. Provoke provoke provoke.

Poison everything. All else fails, crying, rage, sex, infidelity, revenge, hurt.

They are not innocent, authentic, loving, honest, concerned.

Just the stinkiest people to be around.

You wouldn't be around here if your RS was mutual respect, healthy.

Feel sorry for yourself, be caring to yourself.

Let them stink up somewhere else, someone else. Did you love her or have you got confused with love and being a father/mother/caretaker/24hr garage/booze shop owner/vibrator/emotional punchbag/bank.

Not an easy answer.

Was she ever there? Apart from her crazy emotional neediness.

I was a Pornstar baby sitter, one of many.

Good luck moving on Betterman

ignore them. Waste of time money effort

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« Reply #9 on: November 09, 2013, 01:33:17 AM »

Poor them, they are so hurt by the world, everyone is putting them in such positions, eternal victims, I can't even look after myself, help me. Feel something for me, compassion, pity, want, lust, anger, jealousy, violence. Provoke provoke provoke.

Poison everything. All else fails, crying, rage, sex, infidelity, revenge, hurt.

They are not innocent, authentic, loving, honest, concerned.

Just the stinkiest people to be around.

You wouldn't be around here if your RS was mutual respect, healthy.

Feel sorry for yourself, be caring to yourself.

Let them stink up somewhere else, someone else. Did you love her or have you got confused with love and being a father/mother/caretaker/24hr garage/booze shop owner/vibrator/emotional punchbag/bank.

Not an easy answer.

Was she ever there? Apart from her crazy emotional neediness.

I was a Pornstar baby sitter, one of many.

Good luck moving on Betterman

ignore them. Waste of time money effort

Omg I love this
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