I'm the default parent..is that a result of the BPD?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I am the mother of a 15 Month old and two teenagers. My previous pregnancies weren't celebrated partly because I was so young and brought shame to the family and by baby number two is was in a failed abusive marriage. I wanted this time to be different figuring it was my last time. All of the parenting duties are mine. BF never got up at night to change diapers, and when the baby cries he taps out gives him to me. It wasn't until after he turned a year when he started being more hands on. To this day baby boy could poo in his diaper and he will ignore the smell especially during a video game session and leaves me to change the diaper. I store up all these things daily ready to pounce on BF but I know thats going g to start a tirade. He works on the weekend D's Friday thru Sunday but spends Monday thru Thurs here with me. He sleeps in on days sometimes all day claiming he works so hard these weekends right so he deserves to sleep in each day. Sometimes when I take the kids to school in the am he expects me to get the baby up to take the kids to school so the baby doesn't wake him. Isn't this crazy? Ive pushed back and its started the worst arguments ever. I havent slept or slept in a long time. The weekends sometimes but as soon as the baby is up I'm up. There is no equal distri utoon of response so ilities its all distorted and I hate it. I have my own business and have to fit my work I. Along with being solely responsible ke for the baby. He talks about how he so hardworking by he only pays a cable bill or an internet bill gives me 20 here and there when I ask but how in the heck he thinks the. Ills are getting  paid is beyond me. I went off on him this week when he saw his wallet on the floor and he demanded that I pick his wallet up when j see it next time. I lost it. The hell I will its tour damn wallet. You left it on the floor but its my responsiblility to cook clean an up behind him put up his wallet now take care of the baby work and this fool can sleep in? I'm sorry but this anger is all stored up. It comes out in a rant when hes talking about how I am bicitimizj g him or hurting his feelings. He asked for another child and I said hell no. Another few years of indentured servitude while he sleeps in? I'm exhausted. I was mad writing this now I just want to cry this wasn't supposed to happen and I'm too smart for this to have happened to me now I feel stuck. Honestly doing everything all e isn't bad when I'm here by myself at least I'm not looking g at another adult playing poker or gears of war while I'm changing a diaper feeding g the baby and all. I kicked him out for 6 Months for rekindling a friendship with an ex after an I fidelity with another woman. And the first few weeks he came back he was running to change diapers feed the baby everything. Now the boy could have a lb of excrement in his diaper and he'd turn a blind eye.

I know my fault in this. Hes not my husband after all. I should have outlined rules for him to a idea by more stringent ones and tattooed them on his face. Lol... .no really I thought this was common sense stuff. Ive been wanting to go to the gym and hes like sure whenever you want to go. But when the time comes he gives me an e cause. I know my answer is getting g a babysitter and waiting till my son gets a little older but I'm really mad at myself for putting myself in this predicament. Is tbis BPD or is he lazy just has bad character?

Just blowing steam, thanks for listening.

[eternalbloom]

I am the mother of a 15 Month old and two teenagers. My previous pregnancies weren't celebrated partly because I was so young and brought shame to the family and by baby number two is was in a failed abusive marriage. I wanted this time to be different figuring it was my last time. All of the parenting duties are mine. BF never got up at night to change diapers, and when the baby cries he taps out gives him to me. It wasn't until after he turned a year when he started being more hands on. To this day baby boy could poo in his diaper and he will ignore the smell especially during a video game session and leaves me to change the diaper. I store up all these things daily ready to pounce on BF but I know thats going g to start a tirade. He works on the weekend D's Friday thru Sunday but spends Monday thru Thurs here with me. He sleeps in on days sometimes all day claiming he works so hard these weekends right so he deserves to sleep in each day. Sometimes when I take the kids to school in the am he expects me to get the baby up to take the kids to school so the baby doesn't wake him. Isn't this crazy? Ive pushed back and its started the worst arguments ever. I havent slept or slept in a long time. The weekends sometimes but as soon as the baby is up I'm up. There is no equal distri utoon of response so ilities its all distorted and I hate it. I have my own business and have to fit my work I. Along with being solely responsible ke for the baby. He talks about how he so hardworking by he only pays a cable bill or an internet bill gives me 20 here and there when I ask but how in the heck he thinks the. Ills are getting  paid is beyond me. I went off on him this week when he saw his wallet on the floor and he demanded that I pick his wallet up when j see it next time. I lost it. The hell I will its tour damn wallet. You left it on the floor but its my responsiblility to cook clean an up behind him put up his wallet now take care of the baby work and this fool can sleep in? I'm sorry but this anger is all stored up. It comes out in a rant when hes talking about how I am bicitimizj g him or hurting his feelings. He asked for another child and I said hell no. Another few years of indentured servitude while he sleeps in? I'm exhausted. I was mad writing this now I just want to cry this wasn't supposed to happen and I'm too smart for this to have happened to me now I feel stuck. Honestly doing everything all e isn't bad when I'm here by myself at least I'm not looking g at another adult playing poker or gears of war while I'm changing a diaper feeding g the baby and all. I kicked him out for 6 Months for rekindling a friendship with an ex after an I fidelity with another woman. And the first few weeks he came back he was running to change diapers feed the baby everything. Now the boy could have a lb of excrement in his diaper and he'd turn a blind eye.

I know my fault in this. Hes not my husband after all. I should have outlined rules for him to a idea by more stringent ones and tattooed them on his face. Lol... .no really I thought this was common sense stuff. Ive been wanting to go to the gym and hes like sure whenever you want to go. But when the time comes he gives me an e cause. I know my answer is getting g a babysitter and waiting till my son gets a little older but I'm really mad at myself for putting myself in this predicament. Is tbis BPD or is he lazy just has bad character?

Just blowing steam, thanks for listening.

[eternalbloom]

Btw when he's away he talks a out how he loves the baby so much. Can't keep him away because he's dying to see the baby. Then he gets here and is talking to me about us... .I dont know what go make of the laziness.