Another job bites the dust

[peaceplease]

Recent history of jobs of past year:

7/12 - 2/13 Fired

9/13 - 11/24/13.Fired

She has held one job for almost a year in 2010, then she was fired.  And, when she graduated from high school in 2002. she was at a job for three years.  Those were her long term jobs.

Other than that it has been periods of unemployment, or brief jobs  She either quit or was fired.

She claims that she was fired from last job for making a mistake in her schedule.  She was here and received a call asking why she wasn't at work.  She apologized and said that she looked at schedule wrong, and thought she was to go in later that day.  She told them that she would be right in, then they told her never mind it was covered.  I don't think that is the reason they fired her. 

I think that she believes that she is a victim of circumstances always getting fired, and it is not her fault.  I wish she could do some self reflection here.

When she first told me that she lost her job, I was stunned.  And, she snapped at me, "Oh thanks for saying, I am sorry that you lost your job."  I told her that I was just stunned.  Then later that day she thanked me for not flipping out that she lost her job.

This was two weeks ago, and I have not seen her make much effort into getting another job.  I told her there was temp job in classifieds that would help before Christmas.  She has not called.  I offered to take her two weeks ago to look for job,and there is always something.


Finally, I told her that she was not allowed to come here and hang around on the internet, unless she was on my desktop applying for a job.  She claimed the other day that she looked, but I saw her only on her phone with wifi.

I think her FB posts don't help her employment situation.  Talking about how she has swisher. (implying about smoking weed)   

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Thursday]

ahhh peaceplease,

We are hoping that SD22 will keep the job she has now for a very long time. It pays very well (she is in food service), enough that she could afford her own place if her gmother wants her to move out. The job isn't much of a challenge and she could def. do more with her life... .however, after the last year long unemployment, just her having this job is a miracle!

Same as your DD, when SD is out of work she "pretends" to be job hunting. We really know what it looks like to earnestly search for work. It doesn't include sleeping all day and messing around on your phone for hours on end.

She loves the current job YET has been late to work without calling in to inform her bosses TWICE in the last two weeks. She has been threatened with being fired both times but she is a total "suck-up" with her bosses and they have given her some slack because they love her. thankfully. Who knows what will happen if she is late again. Her shift starts at 11:30 AM for the early shift and the problem is her oversleeping. ?

I don't have any great words of advice for you. Stick to your boundaries. Don't let yourself get hung up in the vicious cycle of suggesting places she can apply and the frustration of watching her do nothing. Our history here tells me, until she sees the light about her unemployment she won't lift a finger to find another job. Until she burns out everyone with a nickel to give her, she will keep her hand out for help, even when she can help herself.

Keep the faith peaceplease! I hear you!

thursday

[peaceplease]

Thursday,

Thanks for replying to my vent.  I know that I need to step out of her way and let her fall.  The situation is what it is, and I just need to hand it over and accept it. 


I will keep the faith!  Thanks!

peaceplease