So angry at exgf

[eclectic]

I can act indifferent towards her, but now that she has started initiating contact again, and I am ignoring her calls, but I find myself so angry with her now, because I cared so much, and sometimes I want to pick up the phone and just tell her how angry, I am with her, but then I think what good would it do, and I decide to come here and vent!

[MrFox]

I, and a lot of people on this board, know where you are coming from.  If she has BPD it won't make things any better, it will make them worse.  I would suggest blocking her number, email, and social media, etc.

[Ironmanrises]

Even if you ripped her a new one(and rightfully so considering the abuse you have been subjected to), would only serve to further reinforce in her twisted reality that is scripted in her disordered thinking "see, I was right, look at how much of an $$hole eclectic is". You know the tired motif employed here by the pwBPD. NC is really only way to keep afar from the Janus-faced entity.

[Learning_curve74]

Vent away, eclectic! You are welcome to let out whatever you feel here... .Everybody here can understand why you would be angry.

It is probably more healthy to vent here than to pick up the phone too.  

[State85]

Eclectic….similar situation for me as well. My uBPDexgf has all of a sudden been initiating contact by text, wanting me to talk with her. I, for the most part, ignore these pleas and therefore been told I don’t care what is going on with her. She says I am the only one she can talk to about her issues…

I so want to tell her to go and talk with one of my replacement(s), but what good that would that do? Any contact, either positive or negative, is attention….on which she craves……crazy b***ch.

[Cardinals in Flight]

I so want to tell her to go and talk with one of my replacement(s), but what good that would that do? Any contact, either positive or negative, is attention….on which she craves……crazy b***ch.

Umm, that's not exactly what I'd like to tell the X to do. , but ok.

Seriously Eclectic, let 'er rip... .it does a body good 

[heartandwhole]

eclectic,

This is a safe place to vent, we understand.  Very wise of you to see that venting to your ex will only makes things worse.  But I understand the urge!

Do you do anything physical that helps with the anger energy?

[santa]

There's only 3 possible outcomes here and 2 of them are bad.

1) You start talking to her and wind up getting back together - BAD

2) You start talking to her, don't get back together, and she makes you miserable for payback - BAD

3) You don't talk to her and get on with your life - GOOD