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Hi,
I am recently divorced. The entire process was damaging beyond my wildest dreams and I lost everything. My sons refused to come with me after I had left because they wanted to stay in their home. They are 17,15. The judge let my kids choose where they want to live, so they stayed with their father.
He has manipulated my sons and turned them so far against me my head still spins with his tactics. I keep hoping things will calm down and my sons will be more receptive with being with me. I can never say again that "things can only get better", because things can always get worse.
He paid someone 98,000 dollars to hack all of my communications for 8 months. My communication with my sons was compromised, he intercepted texts and emails, sent things I never wrote, it was terrible. Now that I have that mess cleaned up and my x risked serious criminal charges , I thought he would mellow out. I really did think that he would try to at least stay out of my attempts of communicating with my kids.
He has not stopped his campaign to ruin me... He will continue to find ways to set me up to fail in the eyes of my children. I finally got to see my 17 year old at his therapist office. He is so angry with me for leaving and feels so abandoned. He has seen the divorce decree and has seen every bit of evidence my x was using against me, some true , some half true, and some flat out lies.
He knew I would be out of town for 4 days, and my sons knew I would be as well. He signs me up to drive the hockey team while I am gone. I had no idea. I just found out about it an hour ago. My sons said they "forgot" that I was gone, even though I had tried to call both and left text messages for both of them twice a day while I have been gone.
When are they done? Do I have to deal with this forever? Why are people still believing him?
I could go on and on. I am feeling like a different person and I am happy despite this nightmare. I can feel again, and now I just feel pissed off at the jerk. I would really like to know when he will finally leave me alone?
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