I'm thinking Valentines day is a holiday tailor made for pwBPD to dysregulate. I see no win, nor any neutral truce. My feeling is that no matter what I give my BPDgf or what I do, it will not be what she wants, and chaos will ensue.
Reality? I think she wants me to propose to her. She's been dropping hint after hint and emotional manipulation tactic after tactic. She's gone so far as to try and get me to propose to her for health insurance reasons, and printing up ads for rings and giving them to me. And I am not going to do that.
I feel this holiday will be do or die. And I am not ready for that yet.
Well, holidays in general are difficult for pwBPD.
I suppose you are probably right about her wanting to propose - if you are not ready, by all means do not.
Do you have a plan for the day and do you have a plan for how to handle any dysregulation that might occur?
