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RobertAliso

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« on: March 11, 2014, 10:17:00 PM »

Greetings, I am so new, and have crammed hundreds of hours of reading into the last week. Trying to be available if nothing else.

Four months ago, she was angry about what I did, and of course, angry if I check in with her. "We're done" she says with the same expressions and I'll say (most times ) I heard you, and I get it, I apologize, I saw you from over there and wanted to say hi.

Then she angrily drive away, and I sometimes ask her to please, let me know what this anger is about, her reply is always, I can't you believe you think I would do that (pretty big). I usually get another angry "it's over {RealName}". Poof.

It's like she wants to be stuck in this same angry frame of mind. I have seen her walking and she will glance and see me and, poof, that expression and instant anger. I have written a few emails stating, I get it, it's over and as far as what we agree on, it doesn't matter unless we are a couple so I don't need to talk about it.

Same message, she tells me with the same expression, same tone every time. Leaves like I am a violent person. No whining about the sting, I subject myself to it. I have had some of the best days of my life with her after a breakup, I would be stupid to not be available.

Sorry, what is that. Like an on switch setting her back to this mad at him point.

Thanks
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RobertAliso

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« Reply #1 on: March 11, 2014, 10:20:34 PM »

Hey, my behavior looks like standing still and letting her hit me with a baseball bat hoping she will tire enough to talk. I love analogies when playing my own crazy behavior down.
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