It is commented often that trying to avoid one problem (or encounter, conflict, etc) can end up causing more trouble than if we had just dealt appropriately with the first one. In your case, you have something which seems very actionable, you may not get an 'opportunity' like this again.
Example, a member doesn't want to cause trouble for the other spouse and so doesn't call police or make a report or drops a case in court. Then that niceness or timidness is 'rewarded' with a similar claim against the member. In cases like ours it doesn't pay to be too nice or too thoughtful or even too fair, it will more likely be used against us.
I know. And I'm going to act. Every other time I've been in the legal arena, I've done very well so far. I'm always very prepared and very focused on our son. She's always very focused on punishing me. And I'm able to let her villianizing (great word my T came up with!) be water on a ducks back and stay focused. I know I can do this.
I'd just rather spend my money on something else... . like a 7 seater vehicle that we really need. Or a nice cruise vacation that we also really need!
I'm wondering if there's a way to get an order for reimbursement of legal fees from a custody mod. I know it's possible for a contempt action, but I'm not filing contempt. Should be fun.
