I talked to my uBPDx earlier about some unrelated issues. No text thanking me for the card the kids (I) made her. I don't know what I was expecting. As my T said, a lot of my anger stems from expecting her to be something she is not. Radical Acceptance, I guess. I did the right thing anyway, that's what I accept.
Yes Turkish I didn't get a thank you either but that's not why I did it. I did it for my boys sake and will continue to do so because it's the right thing to do. Lesson learned by me!
Your T is spot on. All my anger and anxiety come from expecting her to act like a normal person when I NOW know she's not. She is a pwBPD and I NEED to accept that so I don't get STUCK and can completely heal. It's just so hard sometimes because for 20 years I was blinded by her and I didn't know the truth. WELL NOW I DO!
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I will be starting a new thread on how I'm struggling with letting go and giving it to God.That's what my T said to me as well. So far it's been working. Working on my own emotions has been harder, but I'm getting there. 20 years of trauma for you is a lot to process!
