MY story

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Here is the story... .

I started talking to her on December 17 of 2013... . Of course all the Christmas and Holiday stuff, I was felling lonely. We met online, she told me everything I wanted to hear... . She seemed liked everything I was looking for,. We met December 20th , and she had me hooked. She was the prettiest girl I dated in a while, but not at all in a slutty way. She looked like the type of woman that was wife material. She is the kind of girl , that i noticed other men looking at. We spent the next night together, things grew, And I spent Christmas eve, Christmas day, and new years with her and her family. My family was all out of town , and I was watching things for my boss, my father. She even bought me a nice Christmas gifts, and a few other things after. For me I had been ripe for the picking. I have been divorced for 10 years and was seeking to get remarried and settle down. I had been renting for years and just wanted to buy a house, and have a wife. My job was great and business is good, just looking for the wife. Red flags were there, but I ignored them... .

So I had some red flags I should have taken notice of:

-Her Facebook profile had her as being in a relationship... . I questioned it and she said there was something wrong with the Facebook app. on her phone. She does not have internet at home just through the phone.

-She had two anger outbursts on the phone at me in one week, out of nowhere. Just before new years. the first one she said she  was sorry and had a bad day at work, and apologized profusely... . I had ignored her for a few hours. The next day she did it, I had to stop and think for a while before I would answer her call, and if I was going to proceed with her.

-On Christmas day , I got text messages from many people wishing me Merry Christmas. One was a feamle strictly a friend, but she got upset at that. Then the other was one that I had talked to on POF, but had not pursued. Anyway, she proceeded to call this girl and tell her that we were dating.

-Her divorce of two years, turned into separation of two years, then separation of one year... . But what did I care, I wanted a wife after all these years of singleness. And besides, she could file for it officially in march.

-Every relationship in her past, they were all evil, no responsibility for her part... Professional victim.

  Anyway, spent all of my time on the weekends with her, I would take her shopping, She always wanted something. Clothes, watches, whatever. We looked at houses, went out to eat. Even though I had been tired, working long days at the family business, She had to go somewhere and do something. We had talked about marriage, set dates, looked at places for a wedding and looked at rings... . She pushed for like crazy for a ring as the relationship went on.

Next Red flags

- She got fired fired from her job... . I tried to help her find a job,  basically she ended up trying for unemployment, and food stamps, she lived with her parents... . More about

-every day since we started dating- mostly during the work week, and she is at home, she sleeps til noon, she complained of some type of infirmity... stomach aches, headaches, abdominal pain(fear of her cervical cancer returning), allergies... . Everyday!

-Her mom was ready to get her out of the house, and wanted us to get married seemed like. But what bothered me was her mom wanted me to put her on my health insurance, as a domestic partner... . basically fraud... I told her my father, who is my boss administers my health insurance, and he would never go for that... . easy out for me... .

-I found out she did not have a checking or savings account. Her checks from work were deposited into her mom's account. I questioned it, she said she had not been able to establish one dealing with the separation and divorce... HMMM... I had no problems doing that when I separated.

  A few weeks go on, things seem okay. We had a great day out a historic site. She wanted me to stay with her and her family, so we could go to church together the next day. That evening, I got to her house. She had a sever meltdown of anger over a car insurance bill that had come in the mail, and also she had been paying for renters insurance for several months. She screamed, in a full fit of tantrum like a three year old, and yelling she waned to die. I got my bag and was ready to just head home. But she came out and chased me, her mom came out, and finally her dad talked me into staying... . The next day I felt apprehension then. this was the weekend of January 18 and 19. The next weekend went by okay, no problems. She came and stayed with me the next weekend.

  Where I live the mere mention of snow shuts everything down. So as they were forecasting I had decided it was a good opportunity to stay the week with me. We had 8 inches, but I was still working, but it was a good opportunity for me to see how should be as a wife... . Well basically, she ended up just hanging around sleeping til noon, and not caring if I had a long day, or was tired after looking back. That blow up was still in my mind from the previous weekend. Also, so many of her stories started to not jive with me.It came down to her timelines of who she had dated over her "separation" period, how long she was with them to make any sense. I had also caught her telling some lies to my mom, about her life. it was different than what she told me...

  So looked on her Facebook... . nothing matched up from what she had told me. It became apparent that she had had an affair on her ex husband, if she was truthful about about the time she spent  dating a coworker... I questioned her more, but got inconsistent answers, but with all that had happened I felt like this was too much. I found some notes in a jacket that she kept as an extra in my truck. They were with the guy she had the thing with... . They talked about the sexual things they did at work, she was asking him if he loved her. He questioned her about the man she lived with. The thing that got me about the notes was that they were scratch paper that had emails dated just a few weeks before she met... . Something was crazy here. Because she lived with a guy, and talking to this other guy. Then she said that if she had stayed with the coworker, December 2012-december 2013 would have made a year, yet Her separation date from her ex husband she says was March 2014... . I held on to this and wanted to think things over before I reacted.

   The of Super Bowl weekend, we had to go back to her parents house. Her mom and step dad went on a weekend trip, and could not take the family dog, so she had to watch the dog. The Friday was okay, but i could sense some distance and anger. I slept horribly at her house. The next day we went out, she wanted to "do something" basically shopping. But at this point I had spent so much money, I had to conserve. She wanted some clothes of course and was mad I didnt buy her anything. We went to the next place, and after that, she stated as I was driving to get lunch. " Since I am not working, I feel like you should offer to help pay some of my bills... I know we aren't married yet, but I need my phone, car insurance, and storage building rent paid. My unemployment hasn't come in yet". Well at that point I had had it with the attitude all day. I started driving back to her house, and was going to drop her off and go home. On the drive back she started in a rampage, because I did not engage in the argument. Then she really freaked out yelling at me when she knew I was headed to drop her off. During that she said she had a panic attack, and took a xanax... . Anyway, when I made it to her house, she was thrilled to her food stamp card come in... . She apologized to me, but was cold towards me the rest of the weekend. I left her house Sunday night towards the end of the Superbowl. Normally, I would see her on Wednesday nights during the week, but all of a sudden, she said she was going to church Wednesday night, that was not like her she could care less about church in her life... .

  The next day at work, she hammered me all day about valentines day, and what we were going to do, in addition to

pushing on the engagement ring... And honestly that was a bad day to do that, It was a bad day for me at work, and just really saw what she was after. When I got home that evening, I saw that she had changed a bunch of her Facebook pics, and taking down the ones of us, as well as adding some men, who I never knew her talking about. I confronted her about her lies and relationships. I  basically called her a liar, we argued, and I broke up with her.  I wake up the next morning, she had already had a new profile on POF. I had to take the day off from work, because I was so hurt. We texted back and forth, I wasnt getting the truth, then her mom gets in the middle of our discussion texting me. It was over. I should have left it at that, but i was wounded, and hurt.

A few days later, I texted her, I wanted forgiveness like a fool. Still no getting anywhere. She is 35 but has the mind of a 12 year old, no reasoning could get into her... . Then a few days later she texts me, saying how sick she is, she has been throwing up, has fevers, scared of cancer... etc , etc. She says she hasnt gone anywhere. It was valentines, she was lonely... . She said she was at home, and her mom and dad bought her some flowers and a teddy bear... . another lie probably... Then we talk about getting back together, she loves me forever and always... . Im here everything... . a few days later she let it out she had went to a concert with a man and another couple... . So she lied about being at home crying about me... . I say enough, a few days later she calls, says she is really sorry, I got sucked in again... then Im back on her Facebook, as a friend. She notices a new female on there who lives a 7 hour drive away and sends her a message as if she is my fiance...   Well, that friend was not my friend anymore, but its okay for her to have guy friends, and goout on a date with them, while we are trying to work it out?

  I was in so much pain for weeks... It is the middle of march... I came out to my truck that morning and found what looked like key scratches on the hood.  I tried to text her... I honestly just wanted answers and a peace parting of ways... A closure... She told me to leave her alone and I did not hear back from her. So i was staring to heal... until...

On march 25th, two sheriffs deputies show up at my home, and say they have papers for my arrest for "cyber stalking"  I spent 5 hours in jail, had to submit a dna sample, and come up with 1000 dollars bail, or I was going to get shipped to the county she lives in (she lives an hour away from me which is good for me now) Keep in mind , the most trouble in my life I had ever gotten into was a warning ticket for a light out. So $4000 dollars later, she comes to the first court date, with a new boyfriend to "protect" her... I just saw pure hate on her face... I was in hell at home trying to make sense of everything, hurting in so many ways, and did not want the label of a cyber stalker. The way the laws are in this state, they are so broad, so if you get "annoyed" by someone calling you, or texting or email, you can have them arrested for cyber stalking. The thing is, the worst thing I called her was a liar and said she was whoring around. I never even got to let any anger out... Thankfully, I kept my text messages, and at the last minute the case was put in mediation and was dismissed... . All she said she wanted was an apology, and I had to sign something that I would never contact her again... . NO PROBLEM

  By this time, I had healed up a bit, and felt excited about the future. I still felt sad for her but it was fading ... Well wouldn't you know... That night she texts me... . Saying how sorry she was , and she still loved me, etc, etc, she did not know I would go to jail... SHe told me everything that  I wanted to hear, and that she has changed alot in her life, saw the mistake, etc. etc. blah blah ... But the thing is the draw, I started to actually think this thing could work... . with all that me and my family had been through... I talked to her for a few days, but I had to pray... she told me I would always be in her heart, she loved me always, I was the best man she had ever known... We had even set up a time and place to meet the coming Saturday. During this time I had looked at her Facebook, and saw the men on there. One had put up a bunch of pics of her, so I knew she had something with him. After two days of texting, she said she felt confused and wanted to move back to Alabama and be with a man that she had been talking to for two months, and wanted to move maybe, but she had not seen him in three years, etc... Well I told her I had been praying, and I got my answer, she couldnt even be truthful about who she had been seeing... I blocked her on my phone. The Saturday I was supposed to meet her, the man had posted another pic, with her in his arms... . I left out a lot, but all I can say is say many lessons here for me.

[lionheart872]

Here is the story... .

I started talking to her on December 17 of 2013... . Of course all the Christmas and Holiday stuff, I was felling lonely. We met online, she told me everything I wanted to hear... . She seemed liked everything I was looking for,. We met December 20th , and she had me hooked. She was the prettiest girl I dated in a while, but not at all in a slutty way. She looked like the type of woman that was wife material. She is the kind of girl , that i noticed other men looking at. We spent the next night together, things grew, And I spent Christmas eve, Christmas day, and new years with her and her family. My family was all out of town , and I was watching things for my boss, my father. She even bought me a nice Christmas gifts, and a few other things after. For me I had been ripe for the picking. I have been divorced for 10 years and was seeking to get remarried and settle down. I had been renting for years and just wanted to buy a house, and have a wife. My job was great and business is good, just looking for the wife. Red flags were there, but I ignored them... .

So I had some red flags I should have taken notice of:

-Her Facebook profile had her as being in a relationship... . I questioned it and she said there was something wrong with the Facebook app. on her phone. She does not have internet at home just through the phone.

-She had two anger outbursts on the phone at me in one week, out of nowhere. Just before new years. the first one she said she  was sorry and had a bad day at work, and apologized profusely... . I had ignored her for a few hours. The next day she did it, I had to stop and think for a while before I would answer her call, and if I was going to proceed with her.

-On Christmas day , I got text messages from many people wishing me Merry Christmas. One was a feamle strictly a friend, but she got upset at that. Then the other was one that I had talked to on POF, but had not pursued. Anyway, she proceeded to call this girl and tell her that we were dating.

-Her divorce of two years, turned into separation of two years, then separation of one year... . But what did I care, I wanted a wife after all these years of singleness. And besides, she could file for it officially in march.

-Every relationship in her past, they were all evil, no responsibility for her part... Professional victim.

  Anyway, spent all of my time on the weekends with her, I would take her shopping, She always wanted something. Clothes, watches, whatever. We looked at houses, went out to eat. Even though I had been tired, working long days at the family business, She had to go somewhere and do something. We had talked about marriage, set dates, looked at places for a wedding and looked at rings... . She pushed for like crazy for a ring as the relationship went on.

Next Red flags

- She got fired fired from her job... . I tried to help her find a job,  basically she ended up trying for unemployment, and food stamps, she lived with her parents... . More about

-every day since we started dating- mostly during the work week, and she is at home, she sleeps til noon, she complained of some type of infirmity... stomach aches, headaches, abdominal pain(fear of her cervical cancer returning), allergies... . Everyday!

-Her mom was ready to get her out of the house, and wanted us to get married seemed like. But what bothered me was her mom wanted me to put her on my health insurance, as a domestic partner... . basically fraud... I told her my father, who is my boss administers my health insurance, and he would never go for that... . easy out for me... .

-I found out she did not have a checking or savings account. Her checks from work were deposited into her mom's account. I questioned it, she said she had not been able to establish one dealing with the separation and divorce... HMMM... I had no problems doing that when I separated.

  A few weeks go on, things seem okay. We had a great day out a historic site. She wanted me to stay with her and her family, so we could go to church together the next day. That evening, I got to her house. She had a sever meltdown of anger over a car insurance bill that had come in the mail, and also she had been paying for renters insurance for several months. She screamed, in a full fit of tantrum like a three year old, and yelling she waned to die. I got my bag and was ready to just head home. But she came out and chased me, her mom came out, and finally her dad talked me into staying... . The next day I felt apprehension then. this was the weekend of January 18 and 19. The next weekend went by okay, no problems. She came and stayed with me the next weekend.

  Where I live the mere mention of snow shuts everything down. So as they were forecasting I had decided it was a good opportunity to stay the week with me. We had 8 inches, but I was still working, but it was a good opportunity for me to see how should be as a wife... . Well basically, she ended up just hanging around sleeping til noon, and not caring if I had a long day, or was tired after looking back. That blow up was still in my mind from the previous weekend. Also, so many of her stories started to not jive with me.It came down to her timelines of who she had dated over her "separation" period, how long she was with them to make any sense. I had also caught her telling some lies to my mom, about her life. it was different than what she told me...

  So looked on her Facebook... . nothing matched up from what she had told me. It became apparent that she had had an affair on her ex husband, if she was truthful about about the time she spent  dating a coworker... I questioned her more, but got inconsistent answers, but with all that had happened I felt like this was too much. I found some notes in a jacket that she kept as an extra in my truck. They were with the guy she had the thing with... . They talked about the sexual things they did at work, she was asking him if he loved her. He questioned her about the man she lived with. The thing that got me about the notes was that they were scratch paper that had emails dated just a few weeks before she met... . Something was crazy here. Because she lived with a guy, and talking to this other guy. Then she said that if she had stayed with the coworker, December 2012-december 2013 would have made a year, yet Her separation date from her ex husband she says was March 2014... . I held on to this and wanted to think things over before I reacted.

   The of Super Bowl weekend, we had to go back to her parents house. Her mom and step dad went on a weekend trip, and could not take the family dog, so she had to watch the dog. The Friday was okay, but i could sense some distance and anger. I slept horribly at her house. The next day we went out, she wanted to "do something" basically shopping. But at this point I had spent so much money, I had to conserve. She wanted some clothes of course and was mad I didnt buy her anything. We went to the next place, and after that, she stated as I was driving to get lunch. " Since I am not working, I feel like you should offer to help pay some of my bills... I know we aren't married yet, but I need my phone, car insurance, and storage building rent paid. My unemployment hasn't come in yet". Well at that point I had had it with the attitude all day. I started driving back to her house, and was going to drop her off and go home. On the drive back she started in a rampage, because I did not engage in the argument. Then she really freaked out yelling at me when she knew I was headed to drop her off. During that she said she had a panic attack, and took a xanax... . Anyway, when I made it to her house, she was thrilled to her food stamp card come in... . She apologized to me, but was cold towards me the rest of the weekend. I left her house Sunday night towards the end of the Superbowl. Normally, I would see her on Wednesday nights during the week, but all of a sudden, she said she was going to church Wednesday night, that was not like her she could care less about church in her life... .

  The next day at work, she hammered me all day about valentines day, and what we were going to do, in addition to

pushing on the engagement ring... And honestly that was a bad day to do that, It was a bad day for me at work, and just really saw what she was after. When I got home that evening, I saw that she had changed a bunch of her Facebook pics, and taking down the ones of us, as well as adding some men, who I never knew her talking about. I confronted her about her lies and relationships. I  basically called her a liar, we argued, and I broke up with her.  I wake up the next morning, she had already had a new profile on POF. I had to take the day off from work, because I was so hurt. We texted back and forth, I wasnt getting the truth, then her mom gets in the middle of our discussion texting me. It was over. I should have left it at that, but i was wounded, and hurt.

A few days later, I texted her, I wanted forgiveness like a fool. Still no getting anywhere. She is 35 but has the mind of a 12 year old, no reasoning could get into her... . Then a few days later she texts me, saying how sick she is, she has been throwing up, has fevers, scared of cancer... etc , etc. She says she hasnt gone anywhere. It was valentines, she was lonely... . She said she was at home, and her mom and dad bought her some flowers and a teddy bear... . another lie probably... Then we talk about getting back together, she loves me forever and always... . Im here everything... . a few days later she let it out she had went to a concert with a man and another couple... . So she lied about being at home crying about me... . I say enough, a few days later she calls, says she is really sorry, I got sucked in again... then Im back on her Facebook, as a friend. She notices a new female on there who lives a 7 hour drive away and sends her a message as if she is my fiance...   Well, that friend was not my friend anymore, but its okay for her to have guy friends, and goout on a date with them, while we are trying to work it out?

  I was in so much pain for weeks... It is the middle of march... I came out to my truck that morning and found what looked like key scratches on the hood.  I tried to text her... I honestly just wanted answers and a peace parting of ways... A closure... She told me to leave her alone and I did not hear back from her. So i was staring to heal... until...

On march 25th, two sheriffs deputies show up at my home, and say they have papers for my arrest for "cyber stalking"  I spent 5 hours in jail, had to submit a dna sample, and come up with 1000 dollars bail, or I was going to get shipped to the county she lives in (she lives an hour away from me which is good for me now) Keep in mind , the most trouble in my life I had ever gotten into was a warning ticket for a light out. So $4000 dollars later, she comes to the first court date, with a new boyfriend to "protect" her... I just saw pure hate on her face... I was in hell at home trying to make sense of everything, hurting in so many ways, and did not want the label of a cyber stalker. The way the laws are in this state, they are so broad, so if you get "annoyed" by someone calling you, or texting or email, you can have them arrested for cyber stalking. The thing is, the worst thing I called her was a liar and said she was whoring around. I never even got to let any anger out... Thankfully, I kept my text messages, and at the last minute the case was put in mediation and was dismissed... . All she said she wanted was an apology, and I had to sign something that I would never contact her again... . NO PROBLEM

  By this time, I had healed up a bit, and felt excited about the future. I still felt sad for her but it was fading ... Well wouldn't you know... That night she texts me... . Saying how sorry she was , and she still loved me, etc, etc, she did not know I would go to jail... SHe told me everything that  I wanted to hear, and that she has changed alot in her life, saw the mistake, etc. etc. blah blah ... But the thing is the draw, I started to actually think this thing could work... . with all that me and my family had been through... I talked to her for a few days, but I had to pray... she told me I would always be in her heart, she loved me always, I was the best man she had ever known... We had even set up a time and place to meet the coming Saturday. During this time I had looked at her Facebook, and saw the men on there. One had put up a bunch of pics of her, so I knew she had something with him. After two days of texting, she said she felt confused and wanted to move back to Alabama and be with a man that she had been talking to for two months, and wanted to move maybe, but she had not seen him in three years, etc... Well I told her I had been praying, and I got my answer, she couldnt even be truthful about who she had been seeing... I blocked her on my phone. The Saturday I was supposed to meet her, the man had posted another pic, with her in his arms... . I left out a lot, but all I can say is say many lessons here for me.

[MidKnightsun]

Hello: I am always amazed at how the BPDs' behavior is so similar, regardless of their sex. I know the whole experience has been awful and confusing for you, but be thankful she only took four months of your life. She will take more, as you recover, but start the recovery process now. Don't beat yourself up over ignoring the "red flags". We all did that because when they were sane, they were very exciting to be with. I could not resist taking my NBPD (male) back after his "push back cycles", which occurred every 3 - 6 weeks for 8.5 years! He finally got frustrated with his inability to hold a "happy thought about us" (I should have gotten there before he did) and dumped me to take someone out he saw in church (that he recognized from Match.com). It was important to him that she be a Christian (although I always found his treatment of me inconsistent with Christian values.) Now they are all over each others' Facebook pages. BPDs, especially the Narcissistic ones, love social / dating sites. I finally contacted him the other day (text) and told him to block me on FB because I didn't want to look at it. Now I'm blocked from his FB page and I blocked him on all my messaging, telephone numbers, and e-mail addresses. I feel better knowing that he can't get at me easily. I need to be left alone so I can heal. Their popping back into you life just negates the little bit of healing you might have done during their last absence. Hang in there. We are all trying to get through it.

[Narellan]

Lionheart that is one hell of a story. I think it almost beats mine 

It moved very fast. And then comes the crash and burn. Mine was only 4 months duration(2 months out now) but I'm finding it so hard because we were still in the idealisation phase and I was the one he'd waited his whole life for, then literally half hr later I'm the scum of the earth. It's a huge shock to your whole body. My brain is starting to process it better now, but my heart is still way behind. My ex and I did not want a marriage or live in thing, but as we spent so much time together my love for him was overwhelming.

Anyway, 2 days after our final split he's painted me black and making my best friend his replacement. I've lost the two of them, my family refused to speak to me because of him and I'm now walking on egg shells awaiting his next recycle attempt. I never want to see or speak to him again. And as shocking as it sounds today I was thinking how nice it would be if he had an accident and was gone ... For good. He's so accident probe and reckless and I just thought how much peace that would bring me. And that is so sick on my part. I've never had thoughts like that before but I'm terrified of him. And what damage he can still do if he got nasty.

I'm having a bad day today I'm usually much more upbeat. I just wonder if it will ever end or if ill be stuck in this situation where the smallest things he does cause me more pain.

You sound amazingly strong. Ill look forward to reading more of your posts . Well done for taking back control.

[letmeout]

Geesh, the bullets we dodge from BPD people! They leave a lot of walking wounded in their paths... . but we still walk, and we can heal!

[antjs]

lionheart i am sorry for what did happen to you. Don't beat yourself up for trying to be more loving and understanding. THIS IS A TEXT BOOK CASE OF BPD. i had my share of them too. meeting this girl nearly at the same time you met ur exBPDgf. I am young and has never been married while she is older and had 3 ex-fiances, 1 ex-husband, 4 ex-boyfriends and 2 FREAKING ABORTIONS. I accepted her victimization and vulnerability during the idealization phase. i even told her that i am read to fix her  . all of a sudden mood swings, emotional roller coasters, meeting her exbf (she broke up with him one month before meeting me), abuse, belittling comments, shameful scenes infront of my friends. I ended it up with her and i was sure about what i did. she got me back next day through seduction and sex (the talk did not work as it was against her and she promised she will never do the same stuff again). back to mind games and drama and she dumped me in the end. I tried to get her back but she painted me black and gave me the silent treatment. TRUST ME WITH THESE KIND OF PEOPLE NO CONTACT IS YOUR WAY TO HEAL. I have learned it the hard way. she turned me from not wanting her to chasing her (i dont even know why though i know she is so harmful for me). I saw her coincidentally in a coffee shop two days ago and acted like she is a stranger. she seemed to be happy and going on with her life. These people has no kind of empathy and they are perfect at shutting down their emotions to get going (they were trained to this since childhood). Trust me you can heal and be a wiser healthier person. they will continue these cycles of destruction to people and themselves in the first place till their life will be really miserable and has an irreversible damage. It is not your job to save her trust me (one of the lessons). If there is someone you should save and make happy it is yourself. Try to probe more into your psychology and find answers to questions like why was i attracted to her ? what made me put up with these horrible events and wait that she might change ? do not i feel my value without being needed by someone ?

take care of yourself

[christoff522]

Hello: I am always amazed at how the BPDs' behavior is so similar, regardless of their sex. I know the whole experience has been awful and confusing for you, but be thankful she only took four months of your life. She will take more, as you recover, but start the recovery process now. Don't beat yourself up over ignoring the "red flags". We all did that because when they were sane, they were very exciting to be with. I could not resist taking my NBPD (male) back after his "push back cycles", which occurred every 3 - 6 weeks for 8.5 years! He finally got frustrated with his inability to hold a "happy thought about us" (I should have gotten there before he did) and dumped me to take someone out he saw in church (that he recognized from Match.com). It was important to him that she be a Christian (although I always found his treatment of me inconsistent with Christian values.) Now they are all over each others' Facebook pages. BPDs, especially the Narcissistic ones, love social / dating sites. I finally contacted him the other day (text) and told him to block me on FB because I didn't want to look at it. Now I'm blocked from his FB page and I blocked him on all my messaging, telephone numbers, and e-mail addresses. I feel better knowing that he can't get at me easily. I need to be left alone so I can heal. Their popping back into you life just negates the little bit of healing you might have done during their last absence. Hang in there. We are all trying to get through it.

Just a hint, you can still block people who've blocked you on facebook. That way if they one day unblock you then they still won't be able to contact you.