visiting kid in public setting

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Been a while since I have posted.   Just wrapped the division of assets for my divorce today(took 11 months after divorced).   Trial went really well and I just owe her a small amount.   She verbally attacked me before and after.   Again making threats against me in the court house parking lot!   I didn't respond to any of it.

The problem I have is she drove a long ways like 2 days to come here for trial.   She wants to see the kids, but its not her ordered time.   I haven't responded and don't intend to allow her to see the kids.   The judge asked me after she left if I was going to allow it.   I told her I had to follow the order to protect my rights.   She seemed fine with that position.

The problem I have is I sense she will attempt to make contact with them at church tonight.   She pulled that stunt one other time.   My son has a part and I really don't want to bend out of fear of her.   What can you do in a public settings like that?   Ideally I don't even want the kids to know she is here.   She is now playing the parental alienation card.   I know she wants to tell them hey I am in town and Dad won't let me see you!

[suffering_parent]

Been a while since I have posted.   Just wrapped the division of assets for my divorce today(took 11 months after divorced).   Trial went really well and I just owe her a small amount.   She verbally attacked me before and after.   Again making threats against me in the court house parking lot!   I didn't respond to any of it.

The problem I have is she drove a long ways like 2 days to come here for trial.   She wants to see the kids, but its not her ordered time.   I haven't responded and don't intend to allow her to see the kids.   The judge asked me after she left if I was going to allow it.   I told her I had to follow the order to protect my rights.   She seemed fine with that position.

The problem I have is I sense she will attempt to make contact with them at church tonight.   She pulled that stunt one other time.   My son has a part and I really don't want to bend out of fear of her.   What can you do in a public settings like that?   Ideally I don't even want the kids to know she is here.   She is now playing the parental alienation card.   I know she wants to tell them hey I am in town and Dad won't let me see you!

[ForeverDad]

So how did it go last night?  Likely she has a right to attend events the children are attending or a part of, particularly school events.  So if she came, I wouldn't overreact.

Up until this point Mom has basically removed herself from contact.   The kids have talked about running away with her.

For this reason I wouldn't agree to letting her have the children on your parenting time.  See them in public settings, okay.  Take them with her for local dinner or event, maybe but probably not?  Overnight, no.  Just in case.

I have basically made sure to make every phone call and skype session to Mom happen when she asks.    It was only about twice a month.   Recently she wants to do a weekly.

I believe her request was due to the looming court hearing or trial, she wanted to show she was an involved mother.

[suffering_parent]

I could tell just from the trial something was going to go down.   Her trio of crazies heckled me as I left the court room.

They didn't end up coming to the church meeting.   At 6:30 am while we are still sleeping my phone rang and it was a blocked call.   Left a message and it was a sheriffs deputy.   The deputy wanted to escort mom to our house so she could see the kids for 5 minutes.   I explained the situation, but it was a female deputy.  She was sympathetic to BPDmom.   They are just so good at playing victim and pulling people's strings.    The deputy left it up to me, but I was really pressured to allow the quick visit.   I had to quickly get all the kids out of bed to say a quick hi.

I wonder what my kids must be thinking that a sheriff had to come here with their Mom.   They didn't say anything to me after, and seemed unfazed by the whole event.

The crazy just never ends.    I guess I am being investigated for computer fraud by the police and FBI now.   She had some e-mails disappear and I guess that means I broke in and deleted them.    Someone else told me the accusations will never stop they just throw as much against the wall as they can to see what will stick.