Hey truly, honestly, she has freedom to ____ anyone and everyone for all I care. But please have some class and some modern relationship etiquette and tell the truth.
Well, if you like brutal honesty then I suggest you recycle a few times. After a few recycle they're not going to bother that much anymore with lying to you, after all it's inconvenient and a bit icky, even for BPD's. By recycling you you basically tell them they can do whatever they want and you'll be there to take 'em back anyway.
Sure you'll be angry for a while after every breakup and go NC. It might even make somewhat of an impression on them at first but they know that when the months pass and the anger subsides you'll be there again and that's all that matters to them anyway. Rest assured, they will make the best of their 'time off' and by that I don't mean they'll reading self-help books or posting on boards like this... .
So you're open minded and not jealous, that's pretty cool I must say... .However with the BPD this will not fly, you are not supposed to feel ok with with them screwing you over. That could mean that you're not that emotionally invested in her anymore, that's unacceptable for the BPD. You're strong I'm sure but she will sniff out your weakness, which you inevitably have, and prey on that untill you are on your knees begging for mercy.
Been there, done that, and still have the t-shirt. It's just stained with hot sauce.
I do appreciate your vote of confidence though.
Yes the vivid reminder you have now supplanted in my mind takes me back to what I thought were better days. I have a saying I came up with while... .it's a long story. Let's just say this is not my first BPDEXGF. I'm nearly certain she's my fourth. What's different this time, with this woman in particular, is she's undoubtedly a full-fledged, raving narcissist. I now accept the fact that I am uBPD+uNPD. My being of the cerebral variety, and sadistic, makes for some pretty interesting alone time - if you catch my drift. I'd rather have her with him or them in the privacy of my own domain at this point. My original post was a self reflection. A cudda, wudda, shudda, if you please. The one thing I have learned to digesst, is that I will never beat (interesting choice of words) my BPD's. So I'm forced to join them - from a distance.
In the event any of my former loves would have had the decency to be HOnest (hoe nest -lol), we all, no doubt, would have had a much better time. And I wouldn't be suffering an injury as I write this.
Happy Holiday's/Bah Humbug
