Law- theft?

[Kreo]

Hey Y'all,

I am not sure where to put this particular question, but this board had law written on it so hopefully this is the right place.  I've been a long time lurker that has ended a BPD relationship. My ex and I agreed that she would keep a laptop of mine and I would keep tickets to an expensive cruise. Days before the cruise was set to take place she canceled the tickets on me and got the money refunded to her. It has been about 3 months since we broke up, is it possible to file a theft claim and get my laptop back?

Thank you

[Aussie JJ]

What is in writting.  

Theft generally (In Australia) requires the intent to unlawfully take something from someone without concsent being given by the other person very loose here, interpretted differently in different situations).  If you have an agreement in writting about the cruise probably better going for that cash than the laptop.  I would recomend looking up the law on theft, if their is nothing in writting.  If their is somethign in writting it is a contract that she has reneged on so then you claim your part of the contract back.  

If their is nothign in writting, forget about the cruise, dont mention it when reporting thiss theft.  It will complicate it.  Let her bring that up in her "defense". 

Remove emotion here.  How much is the laptop worth out of curiosity ?


AJJ.  

[Kreo]

Unfortunately there is nothing in writing. Yeah I was not planning on the cruise any ways, I was attemping to sell my spot on it to a friend when she went back on our deal. The only paperwork I have is the receipt for the laptop, which is worth roughly $1500. With emotions out of the equation, it is merely a financial matter for me at this point. I am just out of college and can use anything to pay of my loans, which the cruise ticket was ultimately going to be used for.

[Aussie JJ]

Kreo,

E-Mail to her, following up about the return of my property. 

Dear exGF,

Please advise when I can pick up my laptop or when you will drop this off.  I asked around the time of our BU and havent received any information about when I can pick this up or when Iit will be returned.  Please provide this information to me.  I was understanding that you needed it to keep doing tasks until you organised something fopr yourself however it is my property and it needs to be returned sooner rather than later.  three months is adequate time to organise this. 

Regards,


myself. 

Be prepared for nothing, follow it up in a few days with the same e-mail.  If she responds with a torrent of blame and critisism and any and everythign uder the sun.  Step back give it a bit and dont reply automatically.  For me at that point, Police. 


AJJ. 

[GaGrl]

Small claims court if she won't return it.

[scraps66]

Honestly, this may be her way of continuing engagement.  Fighting with her is what she wants, in part along with making you suffer.  In comparison to what others here have lost, paid for, tolerated, etc. I would strongly consider simply cutting your losses and moving on and celebrating the escape from BPD.

[ForeverDad]

Who paid for the tickets?  I'd be a bit surprised they refunded the tickets to her if you had provided payment.

That receipt is your documentation, same with the purchase and refund of the tickets, virtually everything else is hearsay.

People with BPD often feel very Entitled, she might even have a history of taking advantage of relationships.  I'm thinking she's figuring you will acquiesce rather than push the issue.