Hi mxmama101

You have a lot on your plate now with your daughter. BPD really is quite a challenging disorder. What was the reason your daughter was in hospital? You mention that she is having severe reactions to the medication with suicidal thoughts. Did she ever have suicidal thoughts before she took this medication or do you believe the medication has caused this?
Sometimes it does take time to find the right doses to give through someone, perhaps that's what's going on here. It would be preferable of course if you could get the exact doses right from the very start but unfortunately it's somewhat a process of 'trial-and-error' until you get it right.
We aren't physicians and can't diagnose your daughter or determine what is and what isn't 'normal' in this particular situation, but the severe reactions you describe do sound very concerning indeed. You say her doctor has said this is normal, has he given any indication of how long these reactions will last?