desperate and looking for ideas

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Has anyone read sun tzu ( the art of war ) an did it help

someone suggested this an i am willing to give anything a try ?

( i am very time poor though so i will skip it if people

wont think it will help )

[SlyQQ]

Has anyone read sun tzu ( the art of war ) an did it help

someone suggested this an i am willing to give anything a try ?

( i am very time poor though so i will skip it if people

wont think it will help )

[Suzn]

I haven't read this book however there hasn't been a book I've read that didn't offer a message. I've always found something meaningful in every one. Reading a book is never a waste of time.

What was the reason for this particular book suggestion?

[SlyQQ]

I said it was sometimes like being in a war zone an described a couple of situations my posistion hitherto has been a more diplomatic approach ( negotiating around vital versus non vital interests ) but it certainly sounds interesting ( really am short of time though )

[new2pain]

Hi,

I never would have made the connection between my relationship and The Art of War, because I have never thought of my gf/exgf? as the enemy, but after reading your question I can think of her BPD as the enemy. With that thinking the line I remember from the book that is most applicable is;

If u know the enemy and u know yourself,  u need not fear the result of 100 battles.

If u know yourself but not the enemy for every victory gained u will also suffer defeat.

If u know neither the enemy nor yourself, u will succumb in every battle.

This battle with BPD is the most stressful battle, I have ever been in, and I have been in battle... .This quote is right on as I am trying to learn everything I can about BPD.

Good luck