Hopeless

[dylan7]

My 24year old daughter was in emergency yesterday for an overdose. She had had at least 25 visits to various emergency rooms in our city with self harm, overdoses, and suicidal ideations. They know her, and put her in the waiting room, barely able to sit up and she leaves often without being seen. She is too impatient to wait. Yesterday she drove home completely impaired on the remnants of the overdose. She woke up in the night and left driving once again. I have been up all night sick with worry.When she returned a couple of hours later she was verbally abusing me for staying up and asking her where she was. Today she is belligerent, threatening to jump out of my moving vehicle when I tried to take her to the doctor and frantic because she desperately is searching for weed as she says it's the only thing that calms her down. She has no money, refuses to work, and spends hours a day on social media posting comments like "I am done" " it's over" etc. I have spent thousands of dollars on college courses she hasn't completed or attended, thousands on private DBT, and I am in serious debt. Her psychiatrist condones the cannabis use and yet her (few) friends say they don't want to hang around with her if she is smoking pot. ( this is exactly what caused yesterday's episode of overdose) There are a lot of creepy guys willing to provide her with pot, as she is very good looking. She threatens to sell herself for drugs. Perhaps she has... .She was with an accomplished boyfriend who professed his undying love and desire to marry her until his parents expressed their concern over his relationship with a mentally unstable girl. He dumped her over the phone after 2 years and told her he doesn't love her and never did. This was after a period of one week of emotion dysregulation and pouting because she didn't get an engagement ring for Valentines Day. He was furious and obviously burnt out. This, as well, caused a suicidal episode and brief hospital admission.  I am beside myself, she is completely out of control. My husband does nothing to help me. He just cries and breaks down which infuriates her. This is the most hopeless and helpless and lonesome I have ever felt. Just thought I would finally share.

Thanks for listening.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[jellibeans]

dylan7

how sorry I am for your suffering. Your d is in a lot of pain and has to be hard to watch. Has your d ever got any help for her addiction issues? My dd is 17 and is back in rehab again. Addiction is a tricky thing and it is kind of a chicken an egg problem... .what do you work on first... .the mental illness or the addiction? She is probably in need of a dual Dx place. Have you considered that? I can see the recent breakup with her bf is hard on her. There is a book by Dr Lee called Reconvering our Kids... .I recommend it to you to read. It is short and so well written... .it might give you some insight into addiction. Your story sounds alot like mine except my d is only 17. Have you thought of finding an interventionist? These poeple are able to help convince the addict to get help... .that is what your d needs right now. Sending a hug your way