She flies out tomorrow

[gomez_addams]

Haven't met with the stbx uBPDw since the lawyer's office.

She's supposed to drop off her car and fly out tomorrow.

If all goes well I'll be in my own bed tomorrow night... .

Let's hope all goes well!

She continues to demand, beg, and plead (via email and text) for a confession of adultery. She continues to ask for an answer to the "evidence" she has. Of course she hasn't described the evidence, and I haven't asked. If it's something innocuous then no explanation would ever suffice. If it's something damning (that she contrived herself) then engaging her is beyond pointless. So i refuse to discuss it, and don't even deny the (non-existent) affair.

I have no idea if she's going to drop off that car or not. Tomorrow after work I'll swing by and see if it's there. If she hasn't texted or emailed or what have you, but the car is not there, I'll probably have Officer Friendly enter the apartment with me. If I see social media posts from her layover in some other state, I'll figure the coast is clear. Maybe a good idea to have an officer with me regardless?

A few loose ends to tie up in the coming weeks. Getting the settlement transferred after the judge signs the paperwork, and four months of alimony to hold her over until then. The car insurance stops when she takes possession of the car. I'll give her until the next billing cycle to take on her phone under her name, or get a new phone/account. Either way next month she's off the phone plan.

Will be changing my phone number. Will probably wait until the loose ends are tied up (3-4 months). After that, NC. Continue to work with my therapist, and take a vacation to see my family.

Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

Gomez

[Nope]

Good luck! I'll keep my fingers crossed.

It isn't a bad idea to have a third party present when you enter the apartment. You don't know what state the apartment will be in and if there is damage you'll need to act quickly and be able to prove that you didn't do it. That thinking may sound a little paranoid, but there is nothing wrong with being safe rather than sorry.

[livednlearned]

She continues to demand, beg, and plead (via email and text) for a confession of adultery. She continues to ask for an answer to the "evidence" she has. Of course she hasn't described the evidence, and I haven't asked. If it's something innocuous then no explanation would ever suffice. If it's something damning (that she contrived herself) then engaging her is beyond pointless. So i refuse to discuss it, and don't even deny the (non-existent) affair.

In some ways, this allows her to stay in double-victim mode. 1. He had an affair! 2. He won't even admit it despite the evidence!

She is trying to cope with the pain of her own feelings and actions in the only way she knows how. This may actually help you -- she is not as motivated to seek a way to become a victim because she already has that story to tell herself (and anyone who will listen). This may explain why the constant barrage of texts -- maybe it's to keep herself continuously protected while she confronts the very real abandonment of divorce.

Maybe a good idea to have an officer with me regardless?

It can't hurt. At the very least, having an eye witness to what you find there might be helpful.

Continue to work with my therapist, and take a vacation to see my family.

[gomez_addams]

She's gone!

House is in good order.

Two things I can't find... .One worth ~$800, and the other priceless. Didn't think to grab it.

Will triple and quadruple check before I freak out.

But everything seems alright. She posted a goodbye message on her social media page to the folks from church.

Anyway... .Need to clear out of the rental room and learn how to scan for key loggers and spyware.

Gomez

[Nope]

Congratulations! With any luck, that can now be the end of that. 

[whirlpoollife]

Will be changing my phone number. Will probably wait until the loose ends are tied up (3-4 months). After that, NC. Continue to work with my therapist, and take a vacation to see my family.

That sounds wonderful gomez!

At time goes on you will  feel not just your mind but your body physically relax.  More than you think as the stress you have been going though before and during became the norm of everyday.