How can I leave without my whole life falling apart because of doing so

[Lulu24]

Hi all,

I'm here... so that must be a step in the right direction. I cannot continue in this dysfunctional cycle. I need help... I want out. He will not go! I'm ashamed to have ended up in this predicament after 1 year relationship. This man can be so good... .but so scary too... .I am trying to keep the peace for my daughter's sake but then it blows up because his constant badgering gets too much and I blow... his behaviour scares me. He will not leave and I'm scared of consequences of forcing him to. Please advice welcomed.  Thanks folks

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[Lulu24]

Sorry I didn't mention how good my partner can be and how kind and I really don't want to hurt or humiliate him. I wish he would leave of his own accord but he says I'm his life

[formflier]

Sorry I didn't mention how good my partner can be and how kind and I really don't want to hurt or humiliate him. I wish he would leave of his own accord but he says I'm his life

Lulu24,



I am glad you have found us.

You have found a safe place...

We can help you sort out what is going on in your r/s (relationship) and then help you work through decisions about the future of your r/s.

Can you tell us some about the behaviors that worry you?

Also... .tell us a few of your behaviors that you like.

FF

[vortex of confusion]

 

I wanted to join formflier in welcoming you to the forums.

This is a wonderful place to help you sort this stuff out. It is very confusing to have a partner that can be so wonderful on one hand yet so difficult to deal with at the same time.

Is your daughter his or is she from another relationship?