Hi DontGiveUpOnMe
Dealing with narcissistic people isn't pleasant at all. How long has your mother been dating this man?
Hes berated me, and my mother without really a blink of guilt or empathy.
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Please understand, I am not in a position to leave, it is a complicated and very important reason as to why I really cannot leave... .It is an incredible risk at this moment.
I am very sorry that he treats you this way. It's clear that you're living in an emotionally hostile and abusive environment. Do you currently feel physically safe at home?
I notice they feed off of each other's paranoia... .deeming everyone as either evil or good... .I cant even say bad, because it goes as far as evil.
This very much sounds like the BPD behavior known as 'splitting', are you familiar with this term in relation to BPD? Here's some info about it:
Splitting refers to a primitive defense mechanism characterized by a polarization of good feelings and bad feelings, of love and hate, of attachment and rejection.
Splitting is a powerful unconscious force that manifests to protect against anxiety. Rather than providing real protection, splitting leads to destructive behavior and turmoil, and the often confused reactions by those who try to help.
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Individuals suffering from borderline personality disorders live in an immature psychological world, fueled by certain constitutional vulnerabilities, where they attempt to shield themselves from conflict and anxiety by splitting the world into all good and all bad. Although this produces an sense of psychological safety, in fact, it renders relationships fragile and chaotic and drives away the very people who are so badly needed to provide stability in the borderlines life.
You can read more here:
BPD BEHAVIORS: Splitting
