Ex has been Diagnoised BPD.

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I'm Lost

I can't help her anymore and I feel weak for not being able to put up with her Behaviour.   When I try to approach her about it she blames me for her unhappiness,  If its not me then its her Dog if its not the dog its her upbringing, and so on and so on

She has tried to manipulate the children against me she has accused me of ripping her off, telling her friends that im the one with the issues and need medical care.

She constantly speaks about killing herself and when we have anyone else she just starts crying then proceeds to bang her head off of any object she can get near.

I know its an illness but my Im worried about my kids now that i have left to stop all the fighting.

One minute im trying to steal the kids the next I dont care about them and I dont want my kids growing up with this emotional rollercoaster enviroment.

But the hardest thing of all is when she isnt stressed she is one of the best person I have ever known.

But I dont know if this is her being manipulative or geniune.

I cant speak to anyone about this as people just see her as twisted,  but she doesnt mean it.

help

[Jeojo]

I'm Lost

I can't help her anymore and I feel weak for not being able to put up with her Behaviour.   When I try to approach her about it she blames me for her unhappiness,  If its not me then its her Dog if its not the dog its her upbringing, and so on and so on

She has tried to manipulate the children against me she has accused me of ripping her off, telling her friends that im the one with the issues and need medical care.

She constantly speaks about killing herself and when we have anyone else she just starts crying then proceeds to bang her head off of any object she can get near.

I know its an illness but my Im worried about my kids now that i have left to stop all the fighting.

One minute im trying to steal the kids the next I dont care about them and I dont want my kids growing up with this emotional rollercoaster enviroment.

But the hardest thing of all is when she isnt stressed she is one of the best person I have ever known.

But I dont know if this is her being manipulative or geniune.

I cant speak to anyone about this as people just see her as twisted,  but she doesnt mean it.

help

[ArleighBurke]

This sounds like so many other people's stories on this forum. People with BPD are at both extremes - amazingly wonderful one minute, hell on earth the next. That's what makes it so difficult for the partners - we see both sides and can't choose... .

It must be very difficult for you.

It *is* manipulative behaviour from her, but it's not conscious or diliberate. It is her illness.

Please read the main posts on the Staying Forum - they discuss techniques to try to maintain your own safety and sanity. Perhaps they can help. It would also be good to have a plan for how to leave quickly with your kids to safety - if that needs arises. Perhaps confide in a neighbour.

Post here - you are amoung understanding friends.