Me

[Eyeamme]

I have told my story of 30 years of not knowing my daughter has BPD. I am going through what I have read as disassociation. What is that about? Why do I have it?

J

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Butterflygirl]

To me, disassociation started as leaving my body so I did not have to feel painful emotions when I was being molested as a child. When I went to therapy as an adult I did it. When I told my story it was as if I was telling the story of another person. I felt numb or I felt nothing. So to me it is just another coping skill that I learned as a child and now can't get rid of even though it is holding me back in therapy. I am still working on this. We all do what we have to do when we have painful emotions both consciously and unconsciously.

My understanding is that the solution is to stay in your body and feel your feelings with an "enlightened witness" present. While feeling these feelings, grieve a little bit and then get back to the "now." [Tolle] There are also all kinds of treatments just like there is for BPD.

[Eyeamme]

Thank you. Really thank you.

J