I am scared

[scared mother]

My adult child shows all the signs of BPD.  We have not had a good relationship since she was 12... .she is now 47.  She blames everything in her life on me, and no matter what I say or do it's wrong.  More importantly, she is threatening me and my husband.  She has said repeatedly she wants us dead.  She now has a 7 year old son who is extremely angry.  He was even suspended from school for uncontrollable anger.  We are in our 70/80's... .and cannot raise him.  But, I feel if he's not removed he doesn't stand a chance of a normal life.  Can anyone help me?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[SoSoSoTired]

Protect yourself and your husband now. Call the police and tell them about her threats.  Change the locks on all your doors.  :)on't allow your daughter or her son to enter your home again.  If you must meet them for some reason, plan the meeting in a very public place. Tell your neighbors to call the police if they see your daughter and angry grandson on your property.

You will suffer immensely if you try to take her angry son into your home to "fix" him.  Don't do it.