Why marriage and will it change him

[Hannibal Heyes]

I probably know the answer myself. I have witten before that I was the one who left him in a strange country, cause things got so out of hand. I set boundaries and didn't take things personal, but if I had stayed, he would probably tore up the hotel room. Now 8 months later he got engaged on New years eve and married the day after to the same man who already was in a relationship and who was indirectly responsible for him being taken to an emergency psychiatric unit, where I spent the whole day with him sleeping on my Lap.  To have that guy walk away with the person I still love so much is hard to take. I know I shouldn't see it as that he is a better person than I am, but it feels like it. He once told me that I was the one for him, but that I was too good. I never understood that. It was like he knew we had st special and Just looked for a way to destroy it. Thanks for listening. I Just feel sad...

[Euler2718]

Maybe you weren't the one for him... .because there is no "right one" -- because it's always going to follow the same roadmap.

You won't be sad forever. Take care.

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I'm starting to come to the realization the pwBPD does not change. It's only about regulating the ups and downs. But they do not change.