Bpd and codependency

[Tweenie]

Hi

This is my first post and I need some advice to clear up a real sense of confusion in my mind.

Although she doesn't have a formal diagnosis, I think my daughter has BPD. I clearly recognise that my relationship with her is codependent but I also identify with BPD symptoms myself. Could we both have BPD, or am I confusing my codependency with BPD.

Any advice gratefully received.

Thanks

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Turkish]

Hi Tweenie,



In what ways do you think that you may be codependent? How old is your daughter, and what's going on right now?

,

Turkish

[marie1057]

My son is 24 and undiagnosed. I do believe he has BPD. I have read about 12 books and researched thoroughly and I think my husband has BPD full blown too. Funny thing is I have a few traits myself. So since neither one of them will get help at this time, I am doing all I can to listen, validate and educate. I am doing the workbooks and growing leap and bounds for myself. I an currently reading The Angry Heart by Joseph Santoro and this one in my opinion really gets to the heart of the matter.

[donnab]

I am reading both "Codependency No More" by Melodie Beatie & "Stop Caretaking The Borderline or Narcissist How to End The Drama and Get on With Life" both are very helpful and like they were written with me.

I definitely have become codependent and became quite ill myself recently. These books are helping as well as EMDR (trauma based therapy) but I have a lot of anxiety about letting go and also allowing myself to be happy - I've lived in this state for so long. I feel sad when I have realised I have a moment where I am free from anxiety and even happy.

It's a long road but I feel I owe it to myself to try to get well