don't want child to move back with me bad for my health

[maryqueenofscots]

child with BPD.  she has destroyed her life and others.  I don't feel like her moving  back "with her parents".  This is because she aggravates my health problems.

How do I get her helps so she can enjoy the homeless shelter

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[twojaybirds]

How old is your daughter?  That would help guide some responses.

[maryqueenofscots]

31

[lbjnltx]

So don't let her move back in.  There's no rule that says you have to.

It's your choice. What's happened that she will be homeless if you don't allow her back in your home?

[twojaybirds]

I agree.  She is 31 and does not have to live with you.

You can make this about you not her. Your conversation could go some what like the following:

Because of MY health, I have a need to live with just my husband.  Other people in the house aggravate my situation and my first priority is to care for my health.

I know this may be hard for you so we will help you with your situation as long as it does not interfere with ours.

Between now and  (2or 3 weeks) we will help you find resources however it is ultimately your responsibility to follow though.  That said here is a list of

apartment resources

shelter resources

mental health services

Social Health resources.

Let me know how you would like our help between now and  REPEAT THE DATE AGAIN, because then is when you will be  moving out.


I would hazard from engaging in her questions or banter that is just more ways to manipulate.  It wont be easy but it does not sound easy now.