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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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Author Topic: She seems to be verbally trying to get me to fight or put me in corner  (Read 705 times)
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« Reply #30 on: May 29, 2016, 01:06:00 PM »

 

So, apparently she decided to make up last night.  She was pissy/grumpy all day.  Went for a run with S13 just before bed and came back in a much better mood.

Poof, it never happened,

Moving on,

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« Reply #31 on: May 29, 2016, 03:04:32 PM »

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Poof... .it never happened... .

I still suggest that this is a hot button topic and maybe a good idea to wrap your head around an easy approach/rules for yourself for next time she wants to play with that button.

In my last MC sessions we actually were told to just write down hot topic arguments, not discuss, then bring it into session for talk with MC only.

Magically... .

He never hit buttons so much after this as he did not want to discuss why he brought up same stuff again and again in therapy when it appeared it had been resolved!

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« Reply #32 on: May 29, 2016, 03:12:14 PM »

Similar thinking here, once she writes it down, she can't rewrite history .

There can be accountability for what actually was written, vice a twisted fantasy.

Here is the thing, it can be a hot button for her and not for me.  Then she can deal with it herself.

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She can learn to respect my boundaries and have healthy conversation about the issue.

Her choice.

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