My daughter was just diagnosed

[Lilabet]

I'm scared.  My daughter just received a diagnosis of BPD with possible bipolar disorder.  Although I'm a little relieved that there may be an explanation for her recent  unusual behavior, I fear the outcome with all the treatment options will not be good.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Hope4us2]

I'm new here too.  Im struggling in the relationship with my adopted daughter with BPD.  It is scary to read about the disorder.  But knowledge is power.   I don't want to throw away my child- but I MUST learn how to have a healthier relationship.   I have no advice for you at this time. But,  I've started reading information on boundaries.   Because the only person I can change is me.

[landslide]

Hi Lilabet,

Welcome!   I'm fairly new here, too.  How old is your daughter? Have you been able to find treatment for her yet?

There is so much great information here, not to mention people who don't judge and truly understand. 

[Lollypop]

Welcome

I just wanted to reach out to you.

It is indeed very scary. I found I became overwhelmed as I started to read and learn. There's just so much to try and take in. I'm a person who seizes challenges and I very soon realised that I needed to go at a slower speed.

Information is very powerful. What I found by reading the information on this site, watching videos and recommended books was that my own behaviours started to change. I have a better understanding of my BPDs25 limitations and importantly it helps me react completely differently. I'm trying to be the parent he needs.

Early on I tried to rush and, because I found validation techniques didn't come naturally, I decided that my best way forward was to try and make sure that whatever I did, I did it well. I first started with providing a loving and supportive environment to get him stable. I'm demonstrating and modelling validation to my family and relationships are really improving. I use this forum to ask for feedback or advice as things arise.

This is a safe place to vent. Everybody understands and it's been a lifesaver to me and my family.  I get different viewpoints, sift and decide on what's a comfortable fit for my family. I'm also challenged at times but in a very good way. I realised that I've been part of the problem and I need to treat and speak to my "vulnerable" adult son as an adult - at all times.

Start with the tools and lessons on top right of the page if you haven't already.