Moving back home

[smHelpMe]

My soon to be 24y BPD daughter does not live with us, moved out 2.5 years ago and has been through hell (homeless, pot addict now, alcohol abuse, domestic violence with her ex-boyfriend) and got evicted from lastest room this weekend. I'm terrified she will be on the streets. We always discussed her coming home once she cleaned up. But don't know when/if it will ever happen. Should we talk with her to move back home and help her slowly clean up? How can we convince her?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Lollypop]

Hi there smhelpme

First of all welcome.

There's a lot of the information on this site that you will fine helpful. Top right bar links you to stuff to read, workshops and videos. I recommend you start here.

We accepted our adult son home mid-Dec as he was in crisis. I swore blind I'd never have him back home. He was depressed and suicidal and about to lose his room in a rented house. What can a parent do? He would have been homeless and we couldn't face a future we could foretell.

He was diagnosed sept 15 in the USA. We live in the uk.

I've been working very hard learning about bod so I understand what we are dealing with as a family. I've been practising validation and better communication skills. It's not been easy as we got him stable but very slowly relationships have been improved.

Our BPDs25 does not seek treatment and self medicates with weed. It's been a struggle to compromise on this. He's an adult and we work on getting him to be ready to live independently.

How do you think you need help, practically speaking?