Hello Forever Dad,
I appreciate your response. A lot.
I wondered if other dads had the same or similar experiences. Your experience is extremely similar to my experiences with my ex.
You put it well, the sense of entitlement is amazing. Seems delusional to me, or near delusions.
We've been kicked out of our a doctor's practice, forever, due to her.
We've been threatened to be kicked out numerous times since, and this year.
She refuses to follow doctor's suggestions, etc... .She "knows more" than everyone else.
I endured a couple of years of her disorders, physical abuse, false statements to authorities, while under the same roof. I left her, and left with our son about 7 years ago.
Currently, the court order is shared time, shared custody.
Doesn't work, not at all.
At least not well for our kiddo.
But also not for me.
Any tips on :
1. the lawsuit she filed with her near extreme claims, with her seeking full custody(baseless claims of course),
2. emotional health (improving it)
3. how to accurately convince others of her disorders
?
Thank you.
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The sense of entitlement exhibited and demanded by so many with BPD is simply astounding. Probably you had been complying and appeasing so she expects you to crumble and retreat. Well, those days are over.
So do not be surprised by her extreme claims or demands. That's par for the course. Since BPD perceptions are typically at the extremes (all or nothing, "I win or you lose" extreme claims are to be expected.
My Ex tried to get sole custody, after all, she had temp custody and majority time in the temp order. She even made numerous allegations to CPS, sheriff's office, hospitals, etc trying to get declarations that I was as bad as she claimed I was. Never worked. They let her do it, claim after claim, investigation after investigation, and every time she failed they just ignored them. But at the end of our two year divorce I walked out with more or less what the Custody Evaluator recommended... .Shared Parenting, equal time and residential parent. Of course it failed and so I went back for custody and majority time. The GAL recommended that I only get custody, equal time remained. Still didn't work, so I went back yet again for majority time. At last the GAL agreed it was necessary but majority time was only granted for the school year. Though it spanned some 8 years, I went from a typical "dad gets alternate weekends" to sole custody and majority time.
Is the divorce over? What is the current order regarding custody and parenting schedule?
If your current order is shared parenting, as most are, it will be difficult for her to change it to full custody, courts are generally quite reluctant to make such changes unless there us 'substantive' basis to do so. Substantive what? Substantive child abuse, child endangerment or child neglect.
