Trying to save my relationship

[Denton.]

I'm in the middle of trying to save my relationship with a lady, who is, I'm sure BPD, everything was going amazing, until, I had some temporary personal problems! And she has now completely withdrawn! Not knowing what the correct way to communicate with her was, I've made things worse, I need advice urgently!

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[Denton.]

I've been in a relationship with a lady who is I think border line BPD.

Caused by, I believe serious trauma from previous men, everything was going amazing, we planned to marry, and I should move to her, I knew she was scared of the feelings, and scared of being  ( trapped)

I became I'll due to a wrong medical prescription causing  (inattentiveness, overemotional, and panic symptoms, and she shut down, pulled up the wall, and stopped all communication, she now knows my illness was temporary! But will have no contact, all though I'm told by her family she withdrew into herself, and now she has sent cruel emails, that are based on her own fears from the past! I need help to try open her again, As I now know that my approach has been wrong.  Please help

[ynwa]

Hello Denton,

It sounds like you are having a tough time.  Have you tried writing how you feel but not giving it to her. The words obviously have a truth that you understand but need to validate. You perhaps didn't expect the medication to have a negative effect on you because it works on others.

Again, perhaps your explanation through her filter has an effect you can't control or foresee?