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[Distress2000]

Last night I began to sit bouderies for her agressive behavior.  She did not lilke it however, there most be rules or it be worst.

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[Mutt]

Hi Distress2000,



I'd like to welcome you to  bpdfamily. I can relate with backlash after settin boundaries, my ex and some family members were not used to boundaries or floating boundaries, backlash won't last forever, it's temporary. How did you set the boundary if you don't mind that I ask?

[believer55]

Hi Distress. Good for you. It is a wake up call to anyone to suddenly have the "doormat" start refusing to take the bad behaviour they have put up with for so long. At first my uBPDh raged worse as me leaving when he raged made his fear of abandonment even worse. Now he knows I will come back and talk with him when he is capable of discussing things in a calm manner. Mind you it hasn't stopped the rages

Keep the boundaries in place and look after you 

[Auspicious]

Hi Distress2000 - good for you for starting to change things!

Can you tell us some more about your boundaries?

A reminder that boundaries are "rules" for you, not her - it's a tricky concept at first.