Family Court Governing Body?

[Duck_Borders]

Hey Everyone,

I won't go into details (see previous threads) about my nightmare case.  Long story short I have a 2 year old son with a BPD.

Every single professional involved in the case agrees that I should have primary custody and that the Mother has serious issues.  Even her lawyer agrees (based on the fact that he doesn't show her most reports.  He never showed her the psych eval, never showed her doctors reports etc), and I've heard through the grapevine that her lawyer acknowledges that she has mental health issues. 

I don't make much money, but I own a small business.  The financial statements have been manipulated to make it look like I have money that I actually don't. 

The opposing counsel was just awarded $18,000 in fee's and in the agreed order he's trying to sneak in a stipulation that he can come after me for more. 

He knows my son's Mother isn't going to pay him.  By coming after me he is just prolonging this nightmare and greatly increasing the expense. 


Is there no type of governing body or something setup to prevent people from getting completely screwed like this?  Right now my options are keep borrowing money from my family to pay for all of this nonsense, or don't pay and possible lose custody of my son.


I'm completely dumbfounded how this system can do this to a family and say "best interest of the child"... .   

There must be something I can do? 

[Duck_Borders]

To be clear:  I was married for 43 days before I was attacked and falsely accused of DV. 

To date this divorce has cost just my family alone in the neighbourhood of $150,000 - $200,000.  My ex has also made some payments.

How can this system allow this to happen to people?  It's not only destroying my future but also my son's future.  My lawyer is trying to end it as quickly as possible, but the OC keeps dragging everything out and taking forever (he has a reputation in this market as being the guy that completely exhausts the other side financially and emotionally until they just give up and he wins by default).

There must be some way to report him to someone?

[david]

No answer to your question but two things come to mind. 1) Can you fix your financial statements to show the reality ? If you can show that the ex's atty manipulated them he could be liable. 2) Keep the custody separate if you can. Get the custody order from the court that you have primary custody as everyone appears to believe.
I have no faith in the legal system after my experiences so I hear you loud and clear.

[Duck_Borders]

No answer to your question but two things come to mind. 1) Can you fix your financial statements to show the reality ? If you can show that the ex's atty manipulated them he could be liable. 2) Keep the custody separate if you can. Get the custody order from the court that you have primary custody as everyone appears to believe.
I have no faith in the legal system after my experiences so I hear you loud and clear.

The OC is not manipulating my financial statements as in "changing numbers".  He's doing stuff like attributing the expense of 4 delivery  vehicles as if they were all a personal benefit to me.  Plus many more sneaky little tricks. 

I think they should be liable.  I've been completely straight forward with my finances from the beginning.  My company is a young startup and there's no money in it so I figured there would be nothing for lawyers to come after me for... .  boy was I wrong.  Now I understand why everyone hates lawyers.  If the OC and his forensic hadn't been so sneaky (I'm not listing all of their tricks to keep this brief) I wouldn't have had to spend in the neighbourhood of $30,000 just trying to prove I don't have any money. 

There has to be something I can do.  This is wrong from every angle.