Im living in a curse

[BIRD86]

My 20 undiagnosed BPD had been having a hard time the entire month. Highs and lows. She Ms been threatening suicide this entire week and I am exhausted when she gets overwhelmed she just doesn’t stop. She doesn’t live with me and hasn’t been over to my house since June since her last attempt. She had been in bad terms with my husband not her dad.

Today she called me crying and wanted to end her life and asked me to come see me. My heart is broken to hear her having such a bad time that I caved and had her stop by for a bit to calm her down. She had some tea and food and calmed down stayed for a half an house then left.
She seemed like she wanted to stay but I didn’t ask even tho I wish she could stay if things where different.
I rather have her for a night than find out she did something and I never get to see her again.

My husband was angry and told me “ I told you she’s not allowed over here” I just stayed quiet. I don’t know what to do anymore.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[kells76]

That's so difficult when the pwBPD, whether directly or indirectly, impacts your marriage. Really hard stuff, and so stressful -- you'd like for you and your spouse to be on the same page and supporting each other, but BPD dynamics seem to infiltrate even your closest relationship. I definitely understand (my husband's kids' mom is uBPD and her husband is uNPD).

How are you and your husband doing today?

Are there any areas where you two do agree about D20 (i.e., "we agree she needs to have a job" etc)?