Bdp daughter

[Cpv]

Hello-I’m sitting here after yet another outburst from my daughter in which she claims all friends use her, all boyfriends reject her, and talk therapy is no help, it just upsets her more. She is unemployed and has changed jobs so much because someone, or the environment is toxic. She’s depressed and kind of at the end of her rope because we can’t financially support her anymore( we do pay for her treatment, for two months now.)The Dr was of her choosing. He is reputable and had treated her kindly. She says just talking is too upsetting. Her outburst was awful enough- even tho she says she’s not suicidal- that I called 988. But, I was too upset to follow through with plans for a night out. I try to set boundaries. I try to detach. I educate myself about the disease. She says the love of my husband and I keep her from killing herself. But man we’ve all lived with this for 20 years.(she’s 33). I guess I need to admit I can’t help her. I did tell her tonight that it’s not ok to say so many terrible things about herself. She now wants to try ketamine therapy. I guess I don’t support that. It’s like… game over. She will have nowhere to live by end of January. That stress is awful for us and her. Sorry if this is disjointed. It’s a lot…

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[sweetums]

I feel like you just described my daughter except she says I am the reason she wants to kill herself. I feel as lost as you do and wish I could give you a useful piece of advice but I cannot as I am looking  for the same thing myself. Take care of yourself.

[sweetums]

Sounds exactly like my daughter. I am the reason she wants to kill herself. She seems to want to punish me. I wish there was an answer for all of us. I would have her move if there was anywhere for her to go.

[kells76]

Hi Cpv,

What a complicated situation you're in...

It's such a mix of some positives (she acknowledges you and your H love her, she discusses therapies, she is articulate enough to say that talk therapy isn't helping, she at least has tried to have jobs) and some profound negatives -- it sounds so hard to get through to her, you wish she could hold down a job, you wish she had internal reasons to stay alive instead of putting it on you and H, she isn't really sticking with therapy. So, so stressful for all of you.

I think I'm understanding that your D33 has been living with you and your husband, but as of a few days ago, that was going to change?

Is she living elsewhere now, or still with you?

Has she brought up ketamine again?