Coming to terms with reality

[DISNEYDadMan]

Hello,

I am new here but to get to the point, my partner has me convinced I am not doing enough to improve or 'change'. 

In my experience arguing, defending or even speaking my own mind evokes an irrational, abuse filled tirade. 

In my defense I am Retired after 21 years in the Army.  I deployed and have been diagnosed with TBI and PTSD.  I quit drinking over 7 years ago to become a better person and get ahold of my mental health.  I still go to therapy every week.

I am a father.  My son is 15 and Autistic.  His mother and I co-parent well.  He and my partner get along quite well, yet she complains im not doing enough.

Im very confused and not sure what I need to do to support her.

Im not mean, or abusive.  Im Attentive, mostly present and respectful.  I do interrupt but less so recently.  I am loud at times.  I have learned I am prone to dominating conversations.  This is always being addressed and I am always striving to improve.

I am not sure what to do.  There is more to say.  Im exhausted.

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