Two Different Perspectives on Stress

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I'm a pretty logical person. I look at things like this: "If im up against a deadline, I am going to freak out and get really stressed. I might lose my temper or feel irrationally aggravated by something, but in the end, the stress from the deadline is at the root of it."

pwBPD: "I feel stressed. Oh brother, there he is again, chewing his cereal and picking at his teeth! He's such a disgusting person! Yes, I really DO need to shout this at him RIGHT NOW! MAN am I pissed! It's no wonder I'm so stressed! How am I ever going to meet my deadline now? My partner is so incredibly unsupportive that all he can manage to do is piss me off instead of help me. If it weren't for him, I would have absolutely NO stress about this deadline! A-hole!" (shoes go flying across the room)

Um, yeah.

Happy Saturday everyone!

DB

[DaddyBear77]

I'm a pretty logical person. I look at things like this: "If im up against a deadline, I am going to freak out and get really stressed. I might lose my temper or feel irrationally aggravated by something, but in the end, the stress from the deadline is at the root of it."

pwBPD: "I feel stressed. Oh brother, there he is again, chewing his cereal and picking at his teeth! He's such a disgusting person! Yes, I really DO need to shout this at him RIGHT NOW! MAN am I pissed! It's no wonder I'm so stressed! How am I ever going to meet my deadline now? My partner is so incredibly unsupportive that all he can manage to do is piss me off instead of help me. If it weren't for him, I would have absolutely NO stress about this deadline! A-hole!" (shoes go flying across the room)

Um, yeah.

Happy Saturday everyone!

DB

[Lalathegreat]

Oh man - SUCH TRUTH! my pwBPD has essentially blamed me for being the reason that he lost his job even though logically his inability to get himself together to be reliable and trustworthy along with a healthy dose of his lashing out at coworkers is to blame. But don't you know, me "having expectations of our relationship" (nevermind all the times he accused me of failing to meet the expectations that HE had but never communicated) drove him to such extreme levels of anxiety that he could not function.

[SettingBorders]

pwBPD: "My partner is so incredibly unsupportive that all he can manage to do is piss me off instead of help me. If it weren't for him, I would have absolutely NO stress about this deadline! "

That's exactly the words I have heared throughout last year. They are all so similar, aren't they?

[dacoming]

You hit it on the head!  Do they have a BPD script or something?  smh.  I hear this all the time over the smallest of things.