its really about a set of entrenched poor methods of coping. thats what youre observing and dealing with.
radical acceptance is a great tool not only as you learn about BPD, but i find it very freeing to have learned to let go of things i have no control over (and focus on what you do have control over):
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=89910.0Very well put - I think the whole r/s was one of "entrenched poor methods of coping" which is why we ended up where we did. I suppose its a bit silly for me to expect that to have changed in the aftermath.
I have done some reading about radical acceptance before, I think part of my problem has been (for everything rather than this) is that I try to solve problems rather than accept them, even when I cannot fix them.
My ex is a problem I can't fix so I spend too much time ruminating/analyzing to make up for it. It's a bad habit.
impossible for any of us to know what impact therapy is having on her, but important to know that a lot of DBT is centered around emotional regulation skills and tools.
Does this mean that it won't be helping with the "coping methods" part of the problem? She told me she cannot regulate her emotions and is extremely "emotionally vulnerable" so I suspect DBT focuses on these aspects.