Ever heard of this case: Two dads against same uBPD

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I'm new so don't have the acronym lingo down... .my husband has been in a 3 year custody battle with uBPD. We just got a phone call tonight from the the ex fiance of my husband's ex wife now wants to join forces and go after custody of his 2 year old. He was our hero that last year. Because of him, we were able to put the pieces to the puzzle together. Before he called us, we just thought we were dealing with a high conflict witch. After hearing his story and what his therapy said, our world to BPD opened up. She's textbook-alienation, emotional and physical violence, false allegations of stalking, false accusations involving worse things, projection, blame, etc etc.  Her patterns are finally showing her true colors. The school and doctors are finally seeing the light.

Question though: has anyone heard of two dads joining forces to go after same mother?

[SBC]

I'm new so don't have the acronym lingo down... .my husband has been in a 3 year custody battle with uBPD. We just got a phone call tonight from the the ex fiance of my husband's ex wife now wants to join forces and go after custody of his 2 year old. He was our hero that last year. Because of him, we were able to put the pieces to the puzzle together. Before he called us, we just thought we were dealing with a high conflict witch. After hearing his story and what his therapy said, our world to BPD opened up. She's textbook-alienation, emotional and physical violence, false allegations of stalking, false accusations involving worse things, projection, blame, etc etc.  Her patterns are finally showing her true colors. The school and doctors are finally seeing the light.

Question though: has anyone heard of two dads joining forces to go after same mother?

[Gemsforeyes]

Anything you do to improve the safety and wellbeing of the children is worth the effort.  The sight of these two fathers working side by side for the sake of the children should make a strong impact on the courts, I would hope.

[Thunderstruck]

From my experience... .There was a brief time where the dad of my SD's older sister was remarried and angry at uBPDbm for keeping his daughter from him. We met up with the other dad and his wife and they were all "We're going to get custody of D and she can live with us and happy family blah blah". When they split, he moved right back in with uBPDbm. I'm sure that any information we had shared with him went straight back to her (not that it matters, we don't have anything to hide). He seems to have codependency issues and might be an NPD as well.

Is that the case with your other dad? Who knows. I find very few people to be reliable and trustworthy (PD or not). So I don't see a problem with sharing information but there might be some things (like strategy) to keep close to your chest.

[SBC]

There's no chance of ex fiance getting back with BPD mom. He has been no contact for over a year and she would rather see him dead since he is now friends with us. He was transparent with us and supplied us with 1,200 emails that are helpful for our case. He is talking to our lawyer Friday to create game plan.