Overwhelmed

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hello -
I have read Stop Walking on eggshells and in the middle of the essential family guide to BPD. Still trying to understand but believe my partner of 28 yrs is a high functioning BPD with npd as well. Everything is just starting to make sense but feel overwhelmed at the same time!

[Obi]

Hello -
I have read Stop Walking on eggshells and in the middle of the essential family guide to BPD. Still trying to understand but believe my partner of 28 yrs is a high functioning BPD with npd as well. Everything is just starting to make sense but feel overwhelmed at the same time!

[gotbushels]

Hi Obi 

Welcome.

Yes, it can feel there's a lot of information and it can be quite overwhelming. I do remember feeling like this when I started going through the materials to learn how to improve my relationship with my SO.

I think two things will help you here. First, using self-compassion by not trying to gobble up everything as quickly as possible. Understand that it takes many people a lot of time to understand how this works. Second, exploring the idea of radical acceptance:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=89910.msg604907#msg604907

I hope you'll share more and find it in yourself to not take things too quickly. Asking why you are trying to jump into doing it may help you.

[Turkish]

Hi Obi,

I'd like to join gotbushels in welcoming you here. 

You posted to Co-Parenting. Are there children involved here?

Turkish