Confused and heartbroken

[Depression = 72% of members]

My husband recently walked out with little explanation (what I did eventually get mainly blamed me).  In the 10 years weve been together he has not held down a job for longer than a few months and I was the one who supported everything - financially by working and paying the bills, emotionally by being there through his ups and downs and ongoing battles with his family.  He first said he didn't think he wanted to work to save the relationship but a few days later changed his mind.  He moved out and has not returned.  He recently made an attempt on his life and has been referred to community mental health for treatment.  He has all the time in the world for his friends but little time for me and I am left wondering why I am sticking around.  After all these years of being there for him no matter what I feel betrayed and ashamed that I believed in our relationship.  I don't really know what to do anymore.

[Helena2703]

My husband recently walked out with little explanation (what I did eventually get mainly blamed me).  In the 10 years weve been together he has not held down a job for longer than a few months and I was the one who supported everything - financially by working and paying the bills, emotionally by being there through his ups and downs and ongoing battles with his family.  He first said he didn't think he wanted to work to save the relationship but a few days later changed his mind.  He moved out and has not returned.  He recently made an attempt on his life and has been referred to community mental health for treatment.  He has all the time in the world for his friends but little time for me and I am left wondering why I am sticking around.  After all these years of being there for him no matter what I feel betrayed and ashamed that I believed in our relationship.  I don't really know what to do anymore.

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[heartandwhole]

Hi Helena2703,

Welcome to the community! I'm very sorry to hear about your breakup. Being walked out on is  so painful.   I've been in a similar situation, and it floored me. Fortunately, you've found a supportive place to help you get through this. There is hope for things to get better. You'll find tools and resources here that will help. And members who understand.

Do you have supportive people around you, Helena2703—friends, family, a counselor? It helps a lot in times like these.

How often are you in contact with your partner? Have you seen him since his suicide attempt?

Keep posting. It helps to share. We're here for you.

heartandwhole