My daughter has BPD and depression

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I'm new to this and just want people to talk to that are going through the same things as I am.  BPD is hard on the care taker and is mentally and physically draining.  She has been in a mental hospital for a week, see's a therapist once a week.  She had a breakdown last year near the end of her 11th grade year and was told she couldn't come back until she was released by her therapist.  She hasn't been back at school and is now going to be getting her GED(with major push from me).  I though we were going pretty good until recently when she was caught shoplifting.  She was charged with petty larceny and has court on the 15th of next month.  I can't afford an attorney for her, so she has to use the public defender.  Her attitude towards this whole thing is like its no big deal.  She's thinking she's going to talk her way out of all of it.  I don't want her to go to jail, but I also don't want her to get off easy for this.  I'm trying this tough love stuff, but its SUPER hard.

[votivefire]

I'm new to this and just want people to talk to that are going through the same things as I am.  BPD is hard on the care taker and is mentally and physically draining.  She has been in a mental hospital for a week, see's a therapist once a week.  She had a breakdown last year near the end of her 11th grade year and was told she couldn't come back until she was released by her therapist.  She hasn't been back at school and is now going to be getting her GED(with major push from me).  I though we were going pretty good until recently when she was caught shoplifting.  She was charged with petty larceny and has court on the 15th of next month.  I can't afford an attorney for her, so she has to use the public defender.  Her attitude towards this whole thing is like its no big deal.  She's thinking she's going to talk her way out of all of it.  I don't want her to go to jail, but I also don't want her to get off easy for this.  I'm trying this tough love stuff, but its SUPER hard.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi votivfire

Welcome to bpdfamily   I'm glad you've joined us, BPD and depression is emotionally and physically draining it's important we take care of us and reach out for support to people who understand, it made all the difference for me and my 29DD and I hope it does for you too.  Has your child just been diagnosed, what are your circumstances votivfire?  

You are not alone  

WDx