I am very worried about my daughter

[lunafloramor]

I'm very worried about my daughter and wish there were something I could do to help her and to get her professional help.  At the same time, she becomes so angry with me, it is hard to discuss anything that might lead to help.  If I suggest she see a therapist or psychologist or mental health professional, she says I am just trying to pass her and her problems off to someone else.  That I don't care about her and want her out of my life.  When it is just the opposite, I want her in my life and I am afraid for her and what might happen to her, she becomes so upset and angry. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Woolspinner2000]

Hi Lunafloramor! 

Welcome! I'm really glad you came and shared your heart with us. Thank you.   I would be worried too, and I often am so concerned about my middle D29 who struggles with emotional regulation. How old is your daughter? Have you seen these concerning behaviors for a long time now?

When you have time, please take a look to the right hand side of this board.------>> >> Click on the points that are of interest to you for more information. Is there anything there which stands out to you that may be helpful?
Please jump in and feel free to contribute your thoughts to the other parents here too!

 
Wools

[Merlot]

Hi lunafloramor

I can really relate; it's incredibly frustrating to know they need some assistance but cannot see it for themselves. 

I was very angry and hurt with my BPD27 behaviour, which included rages and abuse and I can really empathise with how this must feel for you.

I have taken myself out of the conflict and have been learning as much as I can about BPD, while I work through my feelings and grief.
I am fairly new here to the bpdfamily and I am learning that without being able to have professional support, that it becomes about our interactions with them.

I look forward to getting to know you, the board has a wealth of caring people who understand and support you in your journey.  Take care Merlot :-)

[1hope]

 Hi Luna,
Our BPDD19, is currently not living at home, is off meds, and is not going to counselling, so I understand how you feel.  At first, this used to make me so stressed out.  Now, however, I am startling to accept that I cannot control these things.  They are her decisions. 

I have been going to counselling with my husband to help us deal with these issues (a huge help).  I have also been coming here often.  Sometimes I just read through other people's posts, and sometimes I post.  It helps to know that others understand.  I also find the lessons at the side are great!  I have been working on communication with my daughter, and I see some progress, which is positive!  I can only change the way I interact and react, and that is important for me to remember.  The skills I have been using are validation and SET, while remembering about FOG. 

Keep coming back here often, and remember, you're not alone!

Hugs,
1hope