Hi ThisMakesNoSense
I join bluek9 in welcoming you to the bpdfamily. I too am so sorry to hear what you are going through, in particular as your commitment to adopt and seek early intervention for your daughter to ensure, as far as possible, a healthy outcome shows nothing but compassion and love.
It is so extremely hurtful for our children to turn their backs on us, and this must be so difficult for your other daughter too, especially to safeguard her while you are hurting yourself. I too am new to the board and have recently had my DD27 cut us out of her life taking my granddaughter with her, so I understand your pain.
There is a wealth of information to the right
and a wonderful thread on the board about ":)etaching with love"
Hang in there, it's great first step that you joined us here... .we know and understand and are here to support you.
Merlot