I will write this here instead of sending it to her.

[rainbow287]

I know that this message can come as a surprise. We have not talked in 1 month. I know that you are in a relationship right now, and I am not supposed to say this. My pride don't want me to send you this, but I miss you

[pearlsw]

Hi alex287,

Glad you shared this here instead of where it could bring you some results you do not want.

What led to this break between you two?

warmly, pearl.

[rainbow287]

Hi alex287,

Glad you shared this here instead of where it could bring you some results you do not want.

What led to this break between you two?

warmly, pearl.

Took her for granted at the beginning, talked to another guy because I did not give her much attention. Left me for him, That's basically it.

[pearlsw]

Hi alex287,

Oh, sorry to hear this! Has this happened before between you two or is this the first time? Just wondering if there is a pattern to this, or this is new.

Where do you see things going? Do you think you'll be in contact with her again?

Have you had a chance to learn much about BPD or are you still in the early stages of trying to make sense of this all?

take care, pearl.

[rainbow287]

Hi alex287,

Oh, sorry to hear this! Has this happened before between you two or is this the first time? Just wondering if there is a pattern to this, or this is new.

Where do you see things going? Do you think you'll be in contact with her again?

Have you had a chance to learn much about BPD or are you still in the early stages of trying to make sense of this all?

take care, pearl.

First time. We talked for 10 month and dated for 2 months only. She has a patern of leaving relationships 1,5 - 2 month. I will never contact her. The only reason that we talk again is if she initiates it. I have too much pride for that. She is diagnosed BPD and take medication. No therapy. Yes, I started looking into BPD after the breakup. This forum helped me a lot.

[pearlsw]

First time. We talked for 10 month and dated for 2 months only. She has a patern of leaving relationships 1,5 - 2 month. I will never contact her. The only reason that we talk again is if she initiates it. I have too much pride for that. She is diagnosed BPD and take medication. No therapy. Yes, I started looking into BPD after the breakup. This forum helped me a lot.

Hi alex287,

Okay. I just wanted to get a handle on things. You posted on Bettering or Reversing a Breakup... .Sounds like you ought to be posting on Detaching though.

Are you struggling with getting over the relationship in some way? Or you feel pretty certain?

sincerely, pearl.