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Faith Spring
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« on: August 15, 2018, 05:20:22 PM »

Hello, my 17 yo dd has been away visiting family for the last 10 days.  I mean away away.  5,000 miles.  She's coming home tomorrow.  And a couple days into this experience I started feeling something strange.  It wasn't happy.  It wasn't grief.  I couldn't even name it for a few days.  It was safe. 

How awful is that?

I didn't miss her any more than I miss her when she's right in front of me.  I always miss her.  That's just the grief of this thing.    But when was the last time you felt safe? 
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« Reply #1 on: August 15, 2018, 07:08:29 PM »

Hi there,
Haven't been around for awhile... .
SAFE: I get it ,I really do.
 
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« Reply #2 on: August 16, 2018, 08:24:28 AM »

Safe?

I can relate.

My daughter's older sister gave birth to twins in June, so my daughter spent the entire month over there helping out.

I slept better. I was super-productive, both at work and at home. I was able to spend more time with friends. Even though I was working 40+ hours a week, I was way more relaxed and had lots of energy.

Then, in July, she came back.

Living with someone, especially someone you love deeply can and will suck the life out of you.

Take care of yourself.
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« Reply #3 on: August 16, 2018, 02:19:51 PM »

Oh Faith Spring,
I totally get you! When DD20 was in Residential, that feeling of relief because she was safe was so present. My husband remarked many times just how much better he slept because DD was safe.

I was a caregiver for my sick mother for 4 years. We’d send her to this lovely home  for senior citizens for a weekend from time to time. Caregivers call it respite care.  My family had a break from the hard work caregiving to s stroke survivor required.

If only we had a place to check in our loved ones while we, caregivers recoup! Wouldn’t that be something?

We, parents, have only pockets of breaks- moments, a few hours here and there. What a challenge.

How do we find time to rejuvenate?

Daisy123

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