Hi Ace,
Thanks for sharing more of the events of that day. I'm glad you feel good about the interaction with you DD. Since you said you still had shampoo in your hair, I'm guessing you had no prior notice of her arrival. It must have been difficult to think on your toes, so to speak!
When she was at our house (not her childhood home, we moved 7 years ago), I thought there was some good communication ... .but perhaps I'm only seeing it from my perspective.
Any insight into how she felt the visit went?
I regret not asking why she was there. I feel I may have missed an opportunity to truly hear her. And therefore recognize that I made assumptions as well as to what needed to be addressed. She came for her, we made it about us.
Even though you didn't ask why she was there, did she tell you why she was there? In other words, how do you know "she came for her"?
I sent a slightly modified email of my text today. But now as writing my thoughts above, I could have said more ... .maybe it was not to be today.
There's always "next time"
~ OH