How to cope with daughter

[Aquarius68]

Just looking for any advice on how to deal with my daughter who has BPD

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[once removed]

hi Aquarius68, and

you came to the right place!

tell us more... .

how old is your daughter? is she diagnosed? whats going on between the two of you right now?

[Aquarius68]

My daughter is 26 on her second marriage that only lasted 1&half yrs it was a fighting constantly marriage and they lived w me... .she is currently married now for almost 2 years with a 4month old son... .in the time between her marriages she went to counseling where I now believe she was misdiagnosed cause all therapist did there was pump her full of medications,  to point she almost died, her biological father had been diagnosed bipolar so I feel therapist ran with that and just started medicating her symptoms, with no talking. My daughter also did move out and purchase her own home during this time... .
She has not been say diagnosed but from all of my husband and I research she definitely has this disorder... .I just can not get her to see it and her husband now is so passive and is a "whatever makes u happy dear" kind of guy... .
I just need some support to get through this I feel I have no one to talk too and where we live offers no services on this particular disorder so that is y I'm reaching out here... .
Some background on me and my daughter it was always just her and I and I recently just married for the first time in my life at the age of 50 so I know she is dealing with some abandonment issues as well... .But it is classical BPD symptoms I can never do enough, etc... .
That's just a little information for now I could go on and on ☹️

[Only Human]

Hi Aquarius68,

Along with once removed, I welcome you to BPD Family and am glad you found us. We all need help in dealing with our children with BPD traits and by coming here, you will definitely get help.

from all of my husband and I research she definitely has this disorder... .I just can not get her to see it

How did you try to get her to see it? It is not recommended that we tell someone we think they have BPD traits.

Here's a video that I found very helpful in understanding this point. The video is at the bottom but the whole thing is eye-opening:

How to get a borderline into therapy

Let us know what you think and feel free to ask any questions, we are here to help 

I just need some support to get through this I feel I have no one to talk too and where we live offers no services on this particular disorder so that is y I'm reaching out here... .

You have us now, a large community of parents and loved ones who have benefitted from posting here and learning new ways to interact with those struggling with BPD.

When you say you need help dealing with her, what behaviors are affecting you the most? How much and what kind of contact do you have with her? The more information we have, the better we can support you, point you to helpful information.

Again, welcome to the family. We get it, we've got your back.

~ OH