Sweet sixteen

[CaT1373]

Hi.  I’m new here and about 6 months into my daughter’s diagnosis.  Now that I am a little educated about BPD, I recognize that it has been apart of our family dynamics for most of her 16 years.  Even when not in crisis, I’m waiting for the next one.  With self harm, suicide attempts, drug use etc, the quiet space in between is when the fear and weight of it all really grips me.  I’m hoping to find a community that understands exactly what this walk is like, on eggshells, though I think the analogy of walking on glass or through mine fields is more accurate. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Mjobpd]

Welcome. I’m sorry I don’t have much to add, just wanted you to know I’ve read your post and understand! Our kids are about the same age and there’s been some sort of chaos in her life since infancy colic, reflux moved on to creating drama when she was bored on and on. I don’t have any answers but I’m here for the same reason

[StressedOutDaily]

I too am new here - with a 16 year old (turned 16 less than a week ago),newly diagnosed with BPD... .life has been stressful, as you very well know.  Until recently I felt isolated and alone - I am so greatfull to have found this site.

[Mirsa]

Hi CaT1373,

Welcome.  I'm relatively new here, but my 17yo DD got a soft diagnosis about 18 months ago.   The drama, lack of empathy, and cycle of crisis has been her entire life.  Teenagehood and a divorce added in promiscuity, drugs, drinking, self-harm, and suicide threats (but no attempts).  She is doing better in these areas for the time-being, but still has very few relationship skills and a complete lack of kindness.  She seems to be getting enough validation from a older boyfriend, an emotionally impaired father, and social media.   So, I am taking a breather and enjoying a newfound peace and some time to regroup after the constant chaos and exhausting parenting of the past 18 years.   These boards give me a great place to get reality checks and some new perspectives that I may not have thought of on my own. 

You will find a good deal of understanding here.  Hope you keep coming back!

Mirsa