I commend you Snowglobe for working with the T and for enrolling in the class that you need to graduate. These are two very important steps to take care of you- your fears, and your own goals.
I too want to explicitly commend Snowglobe for this.
I also want to point out the "severity" of the financial independence piece of this. What would happen if hubby decided no money for books/? What would happen if hubby decided no money for therapy?
This is a regular dysfunctional tool used by hubby. You have the CHOICE (coming very soon) to remove that tool from his toolbox.
However, what can you do about it? If he's in charge of the bidding, the home and you want a home with him- this is the situation you are faced with.
Not bid. Boundaries. You can't be compelled to sign a purchase offer/bid.
Granted...part of Notwendy's question assumes you want a home with him. There is only one way to figure out if he will change his bid style...force the choice.
Best,
FF